Almost strong enough to let her go...

[soul]

Hey everyone,

I really need some help here, so any advice would help.

If you are interested you can get the whole background on my relationship under post by SOUL.

 

Here goes. I broke up with my girl about 3 weeks ago, because I know she did not want to be tied down in a commited relationship, after a year she told me that she wanted to be able to see other people but she did not want to lose me. I accepted this for about 2 months we agreed to let each other know if we met someone. I soon realized that this is not what I wanted and made the difficult decision to let her go. She really took it hard. But in the end I knew that I loved this girl and just couldn't stay and be second to anyone else. I really thought she was ready to be in a real loving monogoumous relationship, shes almost 27 has had plenty of sexual partners and has been in a serious relationship. It's not like were 18 and have been each others first everything.

 

So I have made the consciencous decision that I really want to be with her and have a loving relationship. But I don't know how to go about it. Its been 3 months that she told me how she feels about wanting to "experience" other people and almost 1 month since we broke up.

 

We don't speak very often and I don't call or try to push our relationship on her. I am trying to give her time and space but I am not sure on how long to wait. I don't know if she has met someone. She says she thinks of me, but I know thath she has alot going on and am not sure that she allows her self to think about whether she wants to be with me. She says she doesn't want to lose me.

 

What should I do? should I wait longer to tell her how I feel?hould I wait u ntil she has had a chance to go out with some people. I don't want to call because I don't want to seem weak, even though I am really hurting inside. Maybe if I wait too long she willl meet someone else who will let her forget about me.

 

This is a really special girl and I don't want to let her slip by with out at least trying. some advie would really be appreciated.

[SarCareBear]

forget about seeming weak.. would you see her as weak if the situation wwere reversed?? Its obvious you two were in love, or if not, at least on the way.. DEFINATLY call her, tell her you still care about her more than ever and would like to try and make somehting work.. the longer you wait, the more it'll seem like you don't care about her anymore.. so take action, and see what her opinion is.. with any luck, the time apart will have made her realize that she wants to be with you and only you