I need help!

[finalalphon]

me and my girlfriend have been together for about almost over a year now, and its like we're moving slow which is fine for me, but i'm seeing things as we're just stuck on one part of the relationship. i mean, let me explain. the things that we do together are perfectly fine for me, but i'd like things to go a bit further. Sometimes by accident, and no not on purpose, i'd accidently touch her in one of the parts of the body, but she doesn't really mind maybe she see's it as an accident also. at some points she brings up other people talking about sex and stuff to me and really i don't know what to say. How do you think i should go on and approach talking about sex with her? to let her know that i'm ready to go up a bit, and how do i find out if she has any problems with this without sounding like a total freak and coming out randomly?

[Clementine orange]

We can give better advice if you tell us your age and hers and your sexual experience/past. First serous relationship?

[finalalphon]

we're both 17, and this is my first serious relationship that i know will last for a long time

[Clementine orange]

I don't think that a sensible girl, who has been with someone over a year, upon hearing that you want to "move things up a bit" as far as intimacy is concerned will think you are a freak.

It is totally natural.

 

To be blunt though, if you are uncomfortable talking about sex and bringing it up etc, then maybe you both aren't ready for it yet. This is adult stuff and requires communication.

 

Here's a hint for you though (and I'd wished I'd known this when I was 17) girls are as much into sex as guys are.

 

You could try watching a very romantic/sexy movie (not porn) and then talking about it - could be a good sequeway.

[finalalphon]

It's not that i'm uncomfortable with it, i'm just afraid she might be and it'll make things real awkward, you know what i mean?

[bitbit]

You could try watching a very romantic/sexy movie (not porn) and then talking about it - could be a good sequeway.

 

 

may i suggest 9 1/2 weeks, basic instinct, or sex, lies, and videotape.

[Clementine orange]

may i suggest 9 1/2 weeks, basic instinct, or sex, lies, and videotape.

 

Um, I would suggest something a little more romantic/sexy than those. Isn't basic instinct about some woman that goes crazy on some guy and stalks him with an ice pick?

9 1/2 weeks is sexy but romantic hmmmmm (though heh, heh, that scene in the with the post almost mugging situation and then steamy underground grinding with the broken water pipe splashing on white clothing - very hot, and the slide projector scene - oh my!!) plus it doesn't end well for their romance really does it?

 

sex, lie and videotape - kinda fetishy and creepy I think....(good movie though)

 

For the life of me I can't think of anything else just now - you might have to go foreign how about "Lucía y el sexo" or "chocolat"

[Clementine orange]

It's not that i'm uncomfortable with it, i'm just afraid she might be and it'll make things real awkward, you know what i mean?

 

Yeah, or she is wondering what on earth is your problem? Why aren't you "going for it".

[unface]

Tell her that you want to light her panties on fire.

[finalalphon]

Tell her that you want to light her panties on fire.

 

hahahahahah. so really i should just straight up and go talk to her about it?

[unface]

hahahahahah. so really i should just straight up and go talk to her about it?

 

And you're smart too...

[finalalphon]

Its just i didn't really know how to approach these things without lookin perverted and if it would make things awkward or not.