emotional chick Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 haai everyone...im really not sure if its good to talk about this but iv jst discoverd my boyfriend is married and has been for 3yrs,he told me he had a child and bcoz i liked him i chose to overlook it....bt later found out he is expecting a second 1...im now confused coz my "like" has developed to love..i cant concerntrate at work anymore coz he is constantly on my mind ,,,what do i do now...please give me advice,,,iv never been this hurt in my whole life... Link to comment
southerngirl Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Drop him. Have no contact with him. Move on with your life. He is married and lied to you. You are helping him to cheat on his wife. There are alot of different issues here. The main thing that I know I personally wouldnt be able to get past is the dishonesty. Link to comment
amtjrtcet Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Yep, don't speak to him-not by phone, email, text-NOTHING. Imagine if you were his wife, think how hurt she'd be if she knew. And his children-let this be a lesson in what kind of man he really is. The pain will fade......How long were you two together? Link to comment
RelaxByWater84 Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 I agree with southerngirl Drop him. A question I have for you is why were you willing to overlook the fact that he was married and had a child? I know that when I hear that a guy is married that is a no zone. Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Hi and welcome to enotalone. You must be devastated to find out that he's been lying to you like that. I'm sure his pregnant wife would be devastated too if she knew what he was doing. He is using you and he can't be trusted. If you stay with him for another second you are basically ensuring that you will have your heart broken and endure a lot more hurt. Walk away now and cut your losses while you still can. You need to get him out of your life ASAP. You deserve someone who will make you a priority and not just a side-dish for sex. What he is doing to everyone involved You, his wife, his child, and the unborn baby on the way is just low. This liar is not someone you should give your heart and energy to. He will never leave his wife for you (so don't fall for those lines either). He might try to keep you around by telling you he loves you and not his wife, and bla bla bla.....He'll give excuses of what he can't leave, etc. Don't buy it. He just wants to keep the door open for convenient sex. If he had a spine he would have done the honest thing and left her a long time ago instead of having affairs- but he chose the cowardly route. Cut him out of your life completely before this gets worse. There are plenty of good guys out there without the baggage, the lies, and the lack of morality. BellaDonna Link to comment
FoxLocke Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Get out of this while you still have your dignity intact. He won't leave his wife for you. He won't take you to public places. He will only spend romantic evenings with you in seedy motel rooms. And you will always play second fiddle to his wife. I can't say with 100% certainty that it will end up that way, but these scenarios generally NEVER vary from the script. Link to comment
emotional chick Posted September 12, 2006 Author Share Posted September 12, 2006 thanks guys even though it hurts i think thats exactly what i needed to hear.we've been dating for a few months now and has hard as it is i will get over it....i broke up with my boyfriend because of him and his possesiveness and now that might b something i will always live to regret... Link to comment
texami Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 sorry about your situation, but everyone (including you) is right... don't have anything else to do with this guy. one thing to think about for the long-term... if this guy cheats on a wife and kids... how could you ever trust him, even if he was with "only" you at some point in the future??? he's a bigtime loser, and you are good to have found out now instead of later. Link to comment
Spugly Fuglet Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 he has no honnor walk away and never look back Link to comment
southerngirl Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Dont regret that. If he was possessive and not allowing you to live then you did what you needed to do. It is not your fault this guy is a liar. He is dishonest. Let him take the blame you did nothing wrong. But that said, its probally time you moved on and dropped him like the loser he is turning out to be. Link to comment
coollady1957 Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 I agree with the other posts. This guy is a horrible liar, deceiver and cheater and certainly not the kind of guy to be involved with. It is definitely time to move on and not look back. I know it will be difficult , but I feel that you will survive this. Link to comment
Ms. Babydoll Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 I think you need to let him go, relationships can be very confusing and heartaching when your patner is expecting a child with another person, it causes a lot of conflicts. Although you love him I think it's best to let him go because you may experience more heartache is you stay with him. Link to comment
xprincessbugx Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 LEAVE! Let him be with his wife and children. He's scum of the earth. Link to comment
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