admiralforever Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 I met a new lady last weekend. and we seemed to hit it off pretty good. On tuesday we went out and again on thursday. We where supposed to meet saturday night to go for dinner but we didn't because she worked all day and she said she was tired. which I said ok cool well maybe next time. On sunday we were going to go to the lake, but I did not hear from her all sunday. I texted her on my phone. But she did not reply. Should I just forget about it? or give it time. It is very hard to read her. Link to comment
sumguy Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 Personally I find text messaging to be detrimental, at least by ringing someone you aren't giving them an easy avenue to avoid talking to you, and by seeing them in person you're leaving them no avenue at all. I'd wait a few days and ring her, asking if she wanted to do something. If the reply is negative, I guess that's that, if it's positive, she was probably just tired still or busy. But don't text anymore, too many things can go wrong, and there are too many ways to avoid replying, which can leave you feeling worse than a flat-out rejection =/ Link to comment
Relationship Coach Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 I would say at the least she should have contact you to say she couldn't make it. Her rudeness may foreshadow her true selfishness which you might not have discovered until later on when you had more of an emotional investment in the relationship. I would blow her off until she contacts you and then let her know that you are not fond of her manners. If the roles were reversed you would be called a player and your head would be on a chopping block! In this day and age it is too easy to communicate and notify someone of your inability to follow through on plans. RC Link to comment
NJRon Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 Yeah, she may be tired, or trying to blow you off. Either way, wait for her to contact you. You have been a gentleman here. Time to see if she is a lady. Link to comment
BetterKarma Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 I agree. Wait until she contacts you again. Don't keep contacting her and make yourself seem desperate. If she doesn't call, don't sweat it, it's her lost. Link to comment
admiralforever Posted July 16, 2006 Author Share Posted July 16, 2006 thanks for the advice guys. I 'll wait and see what happens. Link to comment
heloladies21 Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 Give her a chance to get back to you. If she doesn't call, give her a ring tuesday. Link to comment
admiralforever Posted July 16, 2006 Author Share Posted July 16, 2006 ok, I'll wait for her to contact me and if tuesday night rolls around and no word from her, I will call her. To find out where this situation stands at. Link to comment
admiralforever Posted July 16, 2006 Author Share Posted July 16, 2006 I'll keep you guys updated on the situation. Link to comment
admiralforever Posted July 17, 2006 Author Share Posted July 17, 2006 I am going to go into more detail on thursday's date. She came over to my place, and we went out to get some pizza. It started at 10:00PM. Well she ended up staying until 3:30AM or so. We talked all night and flirted. After we ate we went for a walk. It wasn't dark because the full moon was out. We walked around the park. That is when I made my move and kissed her, at first she was shy, but later she did not want to stop. After she got home she texted me and said she had a great night. and that she likes beign with me. She wrote that she could not wait until sunday. But sunday rolled around and no call or text message from her. We did however talk on friday, and saturday. I am now taking the advice you guys gave me and I am not texting or calling her, and I am currently waiting to see what happens. I am thinking she is interested, but with woman who can really tell...lol. Link to comment
admiralforever Posted July 17, 2006 Author Share Posted July 17, 2006 If she had such a good time on Thursday, why did she stop the contact? Link to comment
admiralforever Posted July 17, 2006 Author Share Posted July 17, 2006 I think she is blowing me off. I am going to just forget about it. Link to comment
heloladies21 Posted July 17, 2006 Share Posted July 17, 2006 My man, calm down. She could be doing this for a number of reasons and you'll be able to find out tomorrow for sure. When you call, if she's there be cool and not confrontational and listen to what she has to say. Let her know you were sorry you didn't get to see her this weekend and see what she has to say to that. Feel the vibe during the convo and see what you want to do then, whether you want to set something else up or not. If she doesn't pick up, leave a msg and just let it be. Honestly, you need to start talking to some other girls as well to take the pressure off any single one of them. Link to comment
admiralforever Posted July 18, 2006 Author Share Posted July 18, 2006 ok, she texted me last night " Sorry if I haven't called or texted, but I have a lot on my mind. I am thinking I have to take care of the things I started before I start something new." I am thinking this is a good bye. I have not replied to her text message yet. Link to comment
heloladies21 Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 Text her back. Find out what it is exactly what it is that she needs to take care of. Link to comment
admiralforever Posted July 18, 2006 Author Share Posted July 18, 2006 but isn't that message pretty much a good bye? Link to comment
BetterKarma Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 Send her a message back saying that you're really sorry to hear that she's going through some rough times and that you'll be here to help her if she needs it. And end it with a "good luck and take care." but isn't that message pretty much a good bye? Sounds like she's confused about her emotions and feelings. Which is why I think you should write back. Link to comment
heloladies21 Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 Not necessarily, it might be a test to see if you're persistent. But more importantly, situations like this can turn right around at times like this. Try and separate your heart from this situation as much as possible and delve into it a little bit. Link to comment
admiralforever Posted July 18, 2006 Author Share Posted July 18, 2006 hey that's some good advice. I am going to try that. The thing I find weird is she wrote me at 1 in the morning. I am a very lite slipper and the phone beeping woke me up but I did not want to reply at that very moment. Link to comment
Relationship Coach Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 Sounds like she has to get rid of someone in her past before you can be in her future. Can you say DRAMA! RC Link to comment
admiralforever Posted July 18, 2006 Author Share Posted July 18, 2006 I will use BetterKarma's advice and see what happens. I will keep you guys posted. I think it is someone from her past. But is her text message promising or just more confusing? that is what I would like to figure out. Link to comment
heloladies21 Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 Send her a message back saying that you're really sorry to hear that she's going through some rough times and that you'll be here to help her if she needs it. And end it with a "good luck and take care." Nah, then you'll fail the test. She'll think you're weak and not able to stand up for youself when you obviously deserve an explanation. Link to comment
admiralforever Posted July 18, 2006 Author Share Posted July 18, 2006 so what do you think I should do then? heloladies21 Link to comment
heloladies21 Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 Just text her back "What is it exactly that you have to take care of?" Anyone would want to know why if a chick gave them this kind of statement. Link to comment
admiralforever Posted July 18, 2006 Author Share Posted July 18, 2006 well like relationship coach said, it is some one from her past. Link to comment
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