Just a quick question (short)

[mmd]

How do I act around a guy who got with my girlfriend while we were separated and I hate him for it... But I have no right to but I still hate him...

[a2000]

Was he one of your friends?

[AntiLove_SuperStar]

Politely, with no mention of relationships, or most importantly, your ex.

 

All physical violence must be suppressed unless you want a court appearance.

[mmd]

Im 16 I go to school and I see him there, I am now together with my ex and he isnt a friend but hes a friend of friends

[traz]

I've been on the other side of this coin...he'll expect some animosity, but just don't make scenes and everything should be fine.

[mmd]

Yeah alright... Thanks more suggestions or anything to add would be appreciated

[blender]

You already show that you have the maturity to even ask about this, and you'll do just fine, ,just be "classy" and leave it be... it's okay that you have feelings about this, it's normal, but to "say anything to him or "act out" in any way, is not so mature".

 

Be respectful of YOURSELF and know that he's just some guy, who really doesn't have anything to do with who you are, or your life. Keep it in perspective, we all have those people we have to see and really don't like what they remind us of.. but just work through the feelings and know that they will pass in time. He doesn't matter in the big picture. You and how you behave are what matters, so "try to let it go" and take the high road. If and When you are in a situation and you have to talk to him, just be "above it" and be friendly and then don't spend too much time talking to him..that's all, this shows that HE doesn't have much "meaning" in your life or your "ex's" and if you do talk to him, dont bring any of it up and you can always politely get away from the situation, heck he doesn't need to know what you're feeling, or think, that's the "control and power" you have over YOURSELF.

 

When you say "I don't have a right to feel this way".. well you have a "right" to feel anything you want, it's how you "choose" to handle it, that defines you, and I get the impression that you are classy and mature, and know that this guy is just some passer by in your ex's life, we all have them and the only "power" they have is the energy of your own thoughts getting the best of you. He's just some guy, you're smart enough to think it through and let it go...