Need help in getting her back!

[alomedia]

I know that probably some of you already know, but my case is a pretty weird one. I am 32 years old, I've been married to a great woman for the past 7 years but there has never been passion in our sex life (there has never been a sex life). Its like we're best friends but the sex has never been good,... never ever. We tried everything but what happened was that I was not turned on by her anymore (a real pity, but its a fact).

Anyway, I met a very nice, single girl and there was instant attraction, we talked a lot, and understood each other, and even though we're pretty different in may things we can communicate well, but nothing happened (I told her I was married and everything). My wife went out of town for a couple of weeks and we spent the night together. It was great (for me at least),... but she got scared because I am married and she started to like me too much. She didn't want to see me anymore, didn't answer my calls, even my mails. She even left the country (not because of me of course). It has been a while now that I've been constantly (but not annoyingly) trying to reach her and tell her that I'm separated but she won't answer. I figure that if we really understood each other and spent good times together she could like me again. Maybe our situation is complicated. What can I do to get her back?

[CarnelianButterfly]

Maybe you need to spend some time alone before you start another relationship. She may still be upset about having an affair with you or she may just not want to see you again. Maybe you should move on.

[NJRon]

If you've left her a message and your contact information already, the best thing to do is just wait and see if she contacts you. In the meantime, I think Carnelian's advice is good.

[ratherbesailing]

alomedia -

 

I'm with the others. At least a couple of months down time is going to be best for you anyhow after being married for 7 years.

[PocoDiablo]

If you're separated, just call her and leave her one message - something like "I'm single, let's go on a date." Then wait. Ball is in her court, so to speak.

 

And go out and meet more people to pass the time.