What does it mean?????!

[Just_misty]

Hi...I was just curious. My husband gets and watches spanking films, but they don't arouse him or anything(and I am pretty sure they don't, because I have watched them with him before..or maybe it was just me that messed it up..?)...he just watches them. I asked him why, and he says he doesn't know. He told me last night that he just sees them as movies. Has anyone else seen or heard anything like this? When I first found out about it last year, I was upset because he was paying for them and we couldn't afford that, and he LIED to me about them. That seems to be my biggest problem with them is that he keeps lying about them..

We are in marriage counseling at the moment, but not very many sessions. The one time I brought it up in there, he didn't speak to me for nine hours (seriously.) and so I am scared to broach it in front of the Dr...any suggestions?

Oh, yeah..he is also being treated for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, ,is that what it is do you think?

[faeriechyld]

Exactly what type of Obsessive Compulsive disorder is he being treated for. Does it deal with sex, washing hands, neatness, that type of thing? You need to find out if he is telling his therapist for OCD about this fetish he has and perhaps even go to the therapist yourself, though I know they won't tell you anything because of confidentiality laws. but perhaps they could take any information YOU give THEM and bring it up in therapy so at least the problem is addressed.

[Just_misty]

Well, actually, I have been going. He had a severe addiction to Everquest last year, and it got so bad that I told him if he DIDN'T go get help for it, then I was going to leave. I love him,but I could not deal with working,then coming home and trying to deal with everything here(kids, yard,house,meals,etc) by myself while he would just sit in front of the computer for hours and hours ignoring everything and everyone. So he agreed to go see the shrink. After he came home the first time and told me everything that he was diagnosed with(clinical depression,OCD, and grneral anxiety disorder), I started going also to find out what to expect and how to help HIM and how I can deal with it also. Pretty much, I go every time these days because he wants me to be there. He doesn't like compulsivly wash his hands or anything of that nature, the game was his addiction AND compulsion. He couldn't stop thinking about it, and when he wasn't playing, he'd go to websites constantly to find out more info on it, compare weapons,etc,etc. That seemed to be the only outward sign of anything... I just wondered if maybe this was another facet of the disorder. And to clarify...he doesn't spend alot of time watching the movies or anything like he did with the game. Mostly it's when he's alone for a few hours before I get home from work or on his day off or something. Maybe twice a month at the most. I am just..curious, I guess, because he can't seem to explain WHY he wants to do it. And why it bothers him to talk about it or anything...