ok, just went no contact.......

[Lenny70]

ive just been out for the evenin with my ex for a prior arrangment..had a lovely evenin together talkin bout run of the mill stuff, she just dropped me off...and i told her! i love bieng a friend to you ,but..i still really care for you, and need to get to a place where i could be just a friend, and i think it would be better if we didnt contact each other.........feel surprisingly cool about it, no doubt there will b a bit of a rollercoaster ride ahead,but this is something i need to do for myself, i dont wanna waste anymore time and energy on someone who doesnt want to be with me......thx to the people who have given me their much welcomed advice, probably will need more of that in the weeks to come....best wishes to all

[Echo]

Good luck Snoffa. Build a strong relationship with yourself....it is well worth it. Know what YOU want and need...and don't settle for less.

[Lenny70]

cheers echo, its great to have this place to get things of your chest, and to have you guys for support...looking forward to waking up one morning and thinking 'wot do i want for breakfast' instead of thinking bout her....thats my first goal