this is soooo messed up!!!!!!

[jaxlo]

I made a post earlier about how I found emails from my boyfriend to this girl

please read it first:

 

 

 

so it's bothering me so I called the number she gave him in the emails and it sounded like some kind of Sex hot line thing so i freaked out. and looked at her aol profile and it had pictures of her. and just tonight, i went on his screen naem and saw "hotjessica954" and knew it was her because thats her name and our area code so i looked it up on google and it brought this up

 

 

it's the same pictures on her/his? aol profile!! oh my god! what am i supposed to do? or think? was my boyfriend aware of this fact?

he has both of her screen names on his buddy list and i don't know how to confront him about this! without sounding like a nosy psychotic girl. (which i admit i am, and it's totally wrong) but he gave me reason to be. how do i say this without telling him i went on his screen name and all of that? just dont know what to do...

[fromfaraway]

Dear Jax,

 

I feel your pain. This is very unfair to you. I think you may need to talk to him about it.

 

For your protection, in the future never put personal information in a forum. They, or someone who knows them personally, may come accross this and they may do things to hurt you. You will get advice from people here without giving too much information.

 

With my warmest regards,

 

Fromfaraway!

[Vanilla]

jackie!!!

 

Oh my God I am so sorry you are going through this!! I would feel so belittled...so betrayed...so disgusted!!! I AM SO SORRY!!!

 

Wow this guy is such a jerk.

 

if he'd just been looking at some porn then yeah if it bothered you i'd say have a talk with him and let him know...

 

but this? this is utter disrespect and disgusting on his part!

 

is she a woman or a man? yuck!!!!

 

I say you just tell him what you found - maybe you were SNOOping, so what- what he's done is FAR WORSE and deserves to come out into the light!

 

He has to own his actions and what he has done here. This is just NOT acceptable.

 

if he is doing this and chatting up with her- don't you think he is likely to cheat on you??

 

What a cowardly act on his part...I am SO sorry

[OceanEyes]

i don't know how to confront him about this! without sounding like a nosy psychotic girl. (which i admit i am, and it's totally wrong) but he gave me reason to be.

 

I'd say so! Finding e-mails and other evidence of your boyfriend contacting/ communicating with a transsexual escort is definitely something you have a right to be "nosey" about. What I want to know, is how are you coping after having found out something so bizarre and disturbing? This obviously brings a whole new perspective on who your boyfriend is.

 

Definitely bring it up with him. If you don't, it's going to eat away at you every minute. As 50% of the equation in your relationship, you need -- and deserve -- some honest answers. Don't be made to feel "psychotic" or neurotic. Talk to him about it, then decide what your next step is.

[jaxlo]

Well I just figured this out last night when I was on the computer and I haven't seen him since and the emails have already been constantly on my mind when i'm with him but now this is going to be and i'm going to just keep questioning if he knew or not. But my main question is how do i say it him?

 

just be like "oh did you know that girl you alomst cheated on me with is not a girl?" i mean, what am i supposed to say?!

[Vanilla]

What I would do is this- I would have her website open when he walks in and then be like "what is this all about"

 

the expression on his face he wont be able to hide- he will know he has been caught.

 

A lot of times with wording things people can BS it and go around it. But when faced right there and then with the images and all the memories flushing back- you can't deny it.

 

If he is REALLY DAMN good he will still try to smooth talk you and completely brainwash you.

 

I am still shocked as to how you havnt brought it up yet. If i Had found that he would have gotten one phone call and out the door.

 

Demand respect! Demand honesty!

 

Isnt it disgusting that he may have been thinking o fher while making love to you? The nights he could have stayed up talking to her, sexually?

 

Thats what you want ina partner?

 

I would just shove it in his face basically. What he did is just flat out WRONG.