UGH..saw my ex gf unexpectedly it was awkward and i was dumb

[brooklyn_machine]

hey

so i unexpectedly bumped into my ex down by the train station, as we live close by and she lives very close by to it, i knew eventually i would see her down there..

anyways, it was awkward, no hug hello, just inane conversation about what weve been up to, i walked with her a bit, then told her i thought we shouldnt see each other, as we were talking about meeting up for a drink etc via email earlier this week. i told her it and she was like thats ok, totally casual nothing major.

 

soo i left it like that..then up the block, i felt that i needed to talk to her more, so i called her, she didnt pick up and i left a vmail saying lets meet for a drink tonight..after 10 mins earlier saying i didnt think we should see ea other..

 

its been 3 weeks since i saw her, and lasdt time it was ugly..you can read the back story on ym earlier posts (she was distant and withdrawn, asking for space, then had a guy for a weekend when i was out of town).

 

i know shes over it and seems like it doesnt bother her at all, why would it, when i was in her shoes and had moved on, its a pain dealing with your ex who still wants to linger..

 

i got jerked around, shes over it, why cant i get over it and just move on..no contact was the way to go, and i goofed it up, but now i know why it is what it is...

 

BLECH!

[sukerbut]

yeah same here dude..i messed up also...queens in the house ! anyways my girl dumped me lst month..i ask her lets just casually see each other and she said yes..first of all i cant believe she said yes to it..but after acouple of times seeing her a) i had to many feelings and b) i was not willing to sit here and be some shmuchk ...she is going to be screwing other dudes..and she will b e !! and then screwing me as well..forget that...so i called her and i told her no..the weekend passes nd now i regret it.this happened 3 weeks ago...so i call her monday and i say lets try to see each other casually..i invite her over on tuesdat ..she comes and is the ice queen..nervous shaking and not wanting to be here...she probly started dating some one new ..that hd to be the only explenation...she did not even want to touch me...so i told her good bye...ready for the kicker bro...she calls me up last week and is like"hey i was thinking about you so i decided to give you a call" what a kiniving pig.."oh by the way are you going to mannys halloween party?" i said no...guess who shows up at the party .. her ex that dumped her afyter 6 months. no contact is the only way to go...she does not care so why shhould you go and torture yourself..out of sight out of mind thats it

[Trisomy21]

That's what I hate about the City I live in, it's not that it's small, it's that there's so little to do, everyone hangs out in the same places on the weekends... There have been nights where I run into 3 or 4 ex's in a single bar ugh..

[quing]

Women, or should I say people always desire what they cannot have, it is getting the message accross some how that they are not the prize like when they left you believing themselves to be, and some how you need to get the message accross that you are now out of reach. The pedestal they sit on needs to be kicked from beneath them in a way that they don't see what you are doing.

If they see what you are doing then it will not work.

 

Wishing them well with their life saying that you are happy and you now no longer feel the victim but much to your own supprise now actually feel good to see that they are now much happier from the desision to part company is a good start. Even if you don't really think it. Then just play dead and get on with your life.

Restore any pride or dignity that may have been previously destroyed in their eyes when you previously parted. (They hate needy men, they hate men who cry, they hate men with out back bone, they hate it when men do not desire them) Oh yeah and never appoligize for anything you have done, let them appoligize for you if they want, but you are who you are whether they like it or not.

If they want to contact you be polite but don't have time for them.

Put them in a position to question their decision.

 

Remember always, you are the prize, not them, they were lucky to have had a chance to get to know you.

[moondog627]

Remember always, you are the prize, not them, they were lucky to have had a chance to get to know you.

 

Too true. I would even go so far as to say you should ALWAYS have this metality with ANYONE you meet. Just don't let it carry over into arrogance.