Obsessed with the relationship

[freedom]

Hi,

Have a question, i have realized over time that i am getting obsessed with my relationship. It takes up all my head space and pulls at y insecurites. In my previous relationships i have never been so insecure in my life, but only resently i developed insecurities towards women. I will be prefectly fine around women, even in the initial dating periods, but as soon as it start to get a little more serious i get really insecure and very bloody sensitive. Does anyone have any ideas why? is it an age thing? is it a gender thing? Wht is it?

I have been hurt badly before my current relationship so maybe that is what scares me... I actually break out in cold sweat in the middle of the night.

[dEllInDa]

It's not a gender thing. You didn't mention how long you have been dating?

She doesn't know how insecure you feel does she?

[darkblue]

It's actually none of the things you mentioned.

It's a bad experience thing:

I have been hurt badly before my current relationship

[freedom]

ok .. if it is a bad experience thing, such as betrayal of trust, how do u get over it? And no she doesnt know striaght out, i think she suspects it though, and i am not going to say it striaght out as i would see it very unattractive to the opposite sex. I would see it as unattractive... Maybe later.... but not now.. any ideas on how to control it? time of date less then 6 months.

[darkblue]

You have to trust your instincts and put trust in those that you feel deserve it.

[heloladies21]

No way to control the way you feel. It's something you're just going to grow out of.

[freedom]

Thanks for the reply,

Yes i can say it is a self esteme thing, I hate the fact that the "virus" has been passed to me! When i talk about virus i mean that when relationship is distroyed by someone elses insecurities and that insecurity is somehow it is passed on.

 

I got to somehow shake this off, it isnt good for me, my relationships current and in the future.