Does miscommunicating call for anger?

[tbrown911]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years now. We are constantly in fights that leave me feeling sad, depressed and wanting to take the blame for whatever caused the fight, even if deep down I know I hadn't done anything wrong. Just a few days ago him and I were hanging out at home for the morning before I headed off to work(i should probably add that he's been unemployed for 4 months now). I mentioned to him that I would be leaving a little early to go to work to pick up my paycheck and then go to the bank and do a few other things. In his effort to get me to stay home with him later he offered the idea to do these things the next day which I just could not afford to do given the circumstances. I failed to mention this to him and did not agree/disagree in anyway to his idea. When the time came for me to leave at the same time I had mentioned to him I'd be leaving he got really angry and stated that he thought we had come to an agreement on doing these things the next day, in turn staying home till a later time. When I told him I never agreed to this and argued my point, he took the knife he was using to chop some things up with, threw it at the floor and then came over to me and kicked the wall next to where I was standing. Does this kind of miscommunication deserve that type of anger?

[cleverme123]

Can you say abuser??? Not only is it un called for he is manipulating and controlling you. He wants to see how far he can push it. You letting him get away with it and the only thing your going to get out of it feeling like a worthless piece of trash. You will be the one crying, you will be hurting and he won't see nothing wrong.

 

RUN girl RUN!

[tbrown911]

Can you say abuser??? Not only is it un called for he is manipulating and controlling you. He wants to see how far he can push it. You letting him get away with it and the only thing your going to get out of it feeling like a worthless piece of trash. You will be the one crying, you will be hurting and he won't see nothing wrong.

 

RUN girl RUN!

 

Even though I know how bad it is, I can't run, I don't know why, but I can't . I hope it never comes to this, but I know the only way I'll walk out is if he hits me.

[kungfumaster]

It is over-reacting. The fact that you said that he's been unemployed for 4 months, IMO, has alot to do with it. He's probably really frustrated at himself, feeling incompetent, and feeling like nothing is in his control - even little things like this blow him up.

 

Its up to you what you want to do. Has he shown any signs of violence before when he got angry??

[cleverme123]

unexplained bouts of anger, yelling, over reaction to little things. Then comes hitting and verbal abuse and put downs. It only gets harder once it starts. Yes I know and understand been there and walk in those shoes.

[Iceman26]

 

but I know the only way I'll walk out is if he hits me.

 

With his type of anger, hitting you is the least of what you should be concerned about. I'd be more concerned about the knife throwing.

 

You should get out now, and it shouldn't take him hitting you to prompt you leaving the relationship.