jakeg1718 Posted August 2, 2017 Share Posted August 2, 2017 Hi Guys, Thought I would come on and share my story and look for some general support/advice. So I've been with my girlfriend for 14 months, and to be honest, the good times where great but my god did we Argue. I'm 24 she's 22 (and a young 22 in my eyes). We used to argue over everything and anything and unfortunately, I would lose my temper pretty bad and call her some horrendous names (nothing physically violent or anything at all! but name calling abuse). Overall though we tended to sort things out...be okay again for a couple of months...literally NOTHING would happen then we would break up for like 2-3 days and then be loved up again. So We booked a holiday to New York together in August coming up in 3 weeks and to be honest even though I love the girl, the arguments where too much, we where both needy, both fairly untrustworthy (didn't like each other going out with friends, any time either brought up going on a night out with friends it would start an argument regardless). But again...the fun times where amazing, truly amazing. But I was thinking...After NYC...I may review it and call it a day as despite loving the girl...the args where too often. Well 3 weeks ago same thing happened and she'd had enough..She ended it and seemed to be for good. I was ruined, I did everything, I crawled back, I was a needy mess, bought flowers, promised the world and 3 days later...we got back and both agreed we are going to cut the and get this rel to work. 4 days later an argument sparks again and it ends...I try and try but nope, she doesn't want it any more. Says she has dates lined up etc. So the week after (now last week) We're clearly playing games, unblocking and re-blocking each other on whatsapp and facebook, odd message here and there, all negative though. I then find out not only has she been on a date...but is now in a relationship already with her first every boyfriend from when they were like 16. She's sending me messages of their length of facetime calls, texts between them, even a pic of them together out somewhere So I go out with a couple friends last Friday night and she starts messaging me...giving me grief for being "out on the pull" as we say in the UK. Sat comes round and again we play the whatsapp blocking game, both being online...both "typing..." but no message comes up. I notice her facebook is single and this dudes is in a relationship so on the Friday where she is giving me grief, I gave it her back and said you jumped back with an old ex which to me is a COMPLETE rebound? Anyway...After all this...its now Thursday, we have spoken briefly over email this week and she has said she is indeed with this lad. And for me to leave her alone...and its broken me. I hate it. I have her blocked on facebook so I cant check up on her and have deleted her number so cant go on whatsapp or text... Will this feeling go away? I feel horrendous. Not eating, feeling depressed, I think its more the fact after a 14 month loved up relationship (bad arguments but 95% was really loved up) She has straight away got with an old Ex and was (no longer talking to me though) showing off about it. Will this go away over time? Is it best to just leave her alone? I feel so crap at the minute as I did really love this girl even though I considered ending it after nyc (but think this was more during arguments Im thinking argh F this Im getting rid once we have been on holiday!) But now she has dumped me, got with an old fella and its crushed me Will time heal all wounds? Would you recommend no contact? Its difficult and just really struggling to enjoy anything at the minute all I want to do is reach out to her but she has stated to leave her b and she now has a new boyfriend already... Link to comment
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