Am I Too Honest?

[EnolWolf]

I didn't think I'd be back so soon, but here's an issue I have now.

 

I wrote a poem describing how pushy my girlfriend USED TO BE on 1/22/05.

Today I was going through all of my poems and nearly forgot that I wrote it.

 

Since that time, I've fallen deeply in love with her. I feel that I can share anything with her, even if it may hurt her. I wrote this about her, so she has the right to know how she made me feel about 3 months ago.

 

The poem, although not very sweet, nearly brought tears to my eyes. These were tears of happiness. It's because I'm proud of how far we've come in terms of our feelings. A lot has changed since that poem.

 

I brought up this poem tonight and my girlfriend gets angry with me. Keep in mind that I haven't read the poem. I only explained what I felt at the time. Nothing bad about her was said.

 

Also the poem was only into 2 months of our relationship. I feel that rocky starts are common. I would love to work for my relationship than have it perfect at the start. More appreciation...

 

Anyway, I don't want to hurt her. I seem to already have. Is being honest so bad? I don't want to keep anything from her no matter what it is. In my book, if you truly love someone you can share anything.

 

Is there a line drawn with honesty? Can it be too much? Am I too honest?

 

Any comments will be greatly appreciated.

 

Thanks for reading.

[EnolWolf]

Pushy

 

What do you want!?

I'm giving all I've got

You're expecting too much

I won't change to what I'm not

 

You make me so mad

You have too much pride

I'd rather not tell you

I'll just hold it inside

 

It's you who's not considerate

You're demanding so much

From the very first kiss

To our very last touch

 

It's all about you,

But you can't even see

The struggles I go through

To still be me

 

At first you were helping

Now you're tearing me apart

In a relationship of expectance

Not from the heart

 

What else can I do?

I can only care

I know what love is

You haven't been there

 

You have right to no opinion

You can't even judge

You just act omnipotent

Like you don't have a smudge

 

I'm not a bad guy

Sometimes I feel that's not true

I take it all in

Just to be with you

 

I've crawled through anguish

Happily skipped through joy

Embraced the disappointments

Yet, you're always so coy

 

You say I'm cheap

That's not the case

You're materialistic

And that's a disgrace

 

You know what I went through

And how hard I tried

You were there on the phone

The last time I cried

 

You aren't here now

You've developed many wants

If they can't be satisfied

You endure my taunts

 

We don't understand each other?

I act like we do?

What are you talking about?

I haven't got a clue!

 

I'm not playing games!

I just don't understand

How you can expect so much

From just a simple man

 

You call me conceited,

Yet call yourself a princess

Then twist it around

To the point it's excess

 

I'm not going to change

I'm willing to compromise

It's hard to see your vision

Because I don't have your eyes

 

Take this time to think

Judge what you have done

This is a true relationship

Only missing fun

[DN]

In this case, she probably would like to think that you always thought she was perfect and you kinda burst her bubble. Being honest can be unwise. So you need to do something to make it up. Send her some flowers with a card saying you are sorry if you hurt her feelings, that you love her very much and would never do that intentionaly.

[melrich]

Have you seen the Jim Carey movie where he can't help but tell the truth? I think sometimes we have to temper what we say to other people because brutal honesty can really hurt people's feelings, particularly when we are talking about subjective comments like "you're too pushy".

 

Maybe try toning the brutally honest observations down a bit and if you feel there is something you have to say to someone, try and put as much context around it as you can.

[EnolWolf]

Thanks for replying

[EnolWolf]

I agree. I guess there can be cons to honesty. I just don't want to build a fantasy though. I want to be completely realistic. I'll lighten up.

 

Thanks for replying!

[xxserialkisserxx]

I just wanted to say that the poem was really good...i guess theres all different aspects of honesty but its always good to be honest just soften the honesty up a little bit for example if your girlfriend comes up to you and says" Baby, deos this make me look fat"? ( typical question with no right answer) If it deos , instead of saying , goodamn that poor dress what are you doing to it?? You look great but the dress isnt good enough for you, or somthing like that....good luck!!!