Riles84 Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 Hey guys need some quikc help. My ex broke up with 2 weeks ago, and lsat night I asked her if she wanted to do somehting to night. Last night she said shed have to see casue she might be doing somehting but she didnt have definate plans, then today she emailed me and told me she was free adn if I wanted to hangout to call her. Im wondering if this is a good idea, should I go out wiht her and try to rekindle things like our first date, or do you think by me saying I made other plans, and kinda playng hard to get will be better. Link to comment
Riles84 Posted February 25, 2005 Author Share Posted February 25, 2005 I want to get her back Link to comment
DN Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 Playing hard to get is a bit silly when you suggested getting together - plus you have to be sure she thinks you are worth "getting". Just hang out, be pleasant, don't come on too strong and see what happens. The fact she said yes maybe a good sign but don't read too much into it. Link to comment
Riles84 Posted February 25, 2005 Author Share Posted February 25, 2005 what do you mean i ahve to make sure she thinks I am worth getting? Link to comment
Riles84 Posted February 25, 2005 Author Share Posted February 25, 2005 Its just to go out as friedns thoug .. kinda not really a date date .. shes jsut gonan come over and watch the OC like we did on our first date, and go to a movie .. thats if we do hangout Link to comment
Riles84 Posted February 25, 2005 Author Share Posted February 25, 2005 Shes not seeing anyone though, and she knows ive been doing a lot of stuff since we broke up that we never did when we were together, like going to clubs, hanging out with old friends, and bettering myself. Plus I dont think shes been doing much at all Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 lol the OC, I didn't know it was that widespread through adults especially!! All the girls I know watch it lol. H*** Yeah dude go for it, I think she might think it's a subliminal date though . So if you don't want it to be keep her attraction level down by not making her laugh. It's kind of hard to be boring, but if you want it to be friendly I guess that's what you have to do. Good Luck. Link to comment
Riles84 Posted February 25, 2005 Author Share Posted February 25, 2005 NO Id love it to eb a date, but I dunno if she thinks of it that way . .I think she thinks of it more of a friedns thing. Link to comment
Riles84 Posted February 25, 2005 Author Share Posted February 25, 2005 Ok this is what ahppened on our first date, we watched the OC .. then went to a movei and then at the end of the night I kissed her on teh cheek instead of going for the makeout. And I know she loved that. Showed her I was differnet then msot guys and special. SHould I try to re-due the first date, to remind her ? Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 Like kiss her on the cheek? Yeah. Don't go in for that full kiss, because that's not using the push/pull and you come off to her as "changed" and a "girlie-man" just like how Aanold puts it lol. Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 Dude, if you haven't talked to a woman in a while and they think your worth getting like DN said then she probably thinks of it as a date. Keep your eye out for the body language; it doesn't lie. And if you don't know it study it before you go out with her on this "friendly date" tonight lol. You can only tell through her body language if she thinks it's going to be friendly or intimate. Good Luck man. Link to comment
Riles84 Posted February 25, 2005 Author Share Posted February 25, 2005 Ok so I should go into it, make her laugh,, flirt a lot, not tlak about the realationship, and at the end of the night end with a kiss on teh cheek? .. then wait for her to talk to me after tongiht? Link to comment
DN Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 Well, this whole thing about playing hard to get always amuses me a little. Not you so much as the idea in general. If you can guarantee that: the person you are interested in is interested in you they like a challenge they think you are worth the challenge they will not meet someone more open and available while you are playing hard to get that once they find the real person behind the mysterious facade you have created they will not be disappointed and dump you then playing hard to get may work. Much better IMO to be open, honest, friendly and open to a relationship with someone who feels the same way. Link to comment
CarrieB123 Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 Dont plan the kiss just yet, see where things go, but I think if you are feeling the "kiss on the check" later tonight is right do it. Be fun, and dont bring up past stuff, good luck! Link to comment
Riles84 Posted February 25, 2005 Author Share Posted February 25, 2005 Ya but its only been 2 weeks since we broke up, and I asked her to hangout tongiht, She still think she porlly thinks of it as a date, also when she broke up with me she said she didnt feel the same way about me casue things werent the same at the end of the relationship like when we first started going out. SO maybe this is a awesome way to rekindle things Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 Ok your idea of it is on track though if on a scale of 1-10 your on track meter (lol) would be like 8/10 because, you should make her laugh (correct), flirt some, now this is important because it has to do with push/pull (so your guess is incorrect, my answer is correct.), don't talk about relationship(correct), kiss on the cheek end of night (correct). So basically dude your all set, study the woman's body language though. Just in case. Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 What woman wouldn't want to get a piece of you after a 2 week relationship and she thinks it's ok to hangout and watch the OC lol, that's definitely a good sign IMO and there shouldn't be any problems. And this IS an awesome way to rekindle things. Link to comment
Riles84 Posted February 25, 2005 Author Share Posted February 25, 2005 it wasnt a 2 week relationship , its been 2 weeks since we BROK UP after our year and a half relationship Link to comment
Riles84 Posted February 25, 2005 Author Share Posted February 25, 2005 Also if Im feeling it, should I kiss her on teh cheek and if its gonna go any farther let her .. or kiss on teh cheek and then thats it? Link to comment
Riles84 Posted February 25, 2005 Author Share Posted February 25, 2005 Also if shes thinking its just a friendly thing, should I still pay for the movie? Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 Ohhh, ok well, then if it's only been 2 weeks after a big relationship (year and a half), then she probably has feelings, so go ahead and make it a date with her. Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 Yeah, but you shouldn't pay for the movie all the time. Because...well I forgot the reason lol, but girls see it as a turn off. Unless she's Anna Nicole Smith lol. Link to comment
CarrieB123 Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 I would do my best to keep it as just a kiss on the check, thats sweet and it will give her something to think about. Link to comment
Riles84 Posted February 25, 2005 Author Share Posted February 25, 2005 Well im gonan go ahead and pay for the movie, and ill keep it a kiss on the cheek, but what if shes the one who goes in for more should I pull awawy or kiss her back? Link to comment
CarrieB123 Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 Go for it if she makes the move, and you want to. I am thinkin' that she realized what she gave up, and is missing it, that being you. This may be a huge night for you, kind of a make it or break type of night, so PLAY IT COOL. Link to comment
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