Helpme86 Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 Just the other day there was this new girl at my work. Someone said to me, "hey did you see the new hot chick?" I said no, but I made sure I did. I saw her and was like wow! Well I found out she was deaf, but my opinion of her did not change at all. I never knew I would think like that. I thought she was like 17, 18, maybe 19. But today I found out she is over 21! I was planning on talking to her, she can read lips, but for some reason, when I found out she was 21 I got a bit pissed. I'm only 18. I don't know how to put it, but it seems as if she is almost out of my age range to even talk to. Any one else know what I am saying? I know what I want to say, but I can't get the exact words out of my head right now for some reason. Link to comment
DragonGirl724 Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 dont put up a boundry just yet. its great of you to accept her disability & not let it bother you. thats awesome! go over & talk to her. dont let your age be a factor of meeting someone youre interested in. go for it. -DG724 Link to comment
DN Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 you may be feeling intimidated by the three years, but she may not care. Just try and see what happens. Link to comment
Helpme86 Posted February 7, 2005 Author Share Posted February 7, 2005 I'm not putting up a barrier at all....Just was a bit disappointed tha she is so much older than me. Thats what I ment. Shes older than 21, not sure what age exactly but since I'm only 18, so there is an age difference. I'd love to go and talk to her. I just don't know how I could. I'm was also a bit disappointed when I saw our schedule for next week, I will not work with her at all. She works durrig the day, and I work durring the evening. Link to comment
Massari Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 she'll be thrilled the you wanna talk to her.. she probably doesn't know anyone there since she is new. Go fo it!.. the age thing is not an issue.. you are probably very more mature then most of 18 years old because of the fact that you accepted her. Link to comment
Helpme86 Posted February 7, 2005 Author Share Posted February 7, 2005 you may be feeling intimidated by the three years, but she may not care. Just try and see what happens. Yes! Yes! Link to comment
DragonGirl724 Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 dont live life in 'shoulda coulda woulda'....get a hold of her before someone else does! and then youre gonna be kicking yourself in the you know what. ask her to lunch. either on her lunch hour (when youre both free) or on a weekend. dont be so pessimistic. -DG724 Link to comment
Helpme86 Posted February 7, 2005 Author Share Posted February 7, 2005 I'm not being all down about it, but like my second post on the first page, I will not see her at all next week. A relationship would be great, but I don't know her, but if that did not work, having another friend never hurts. *EDIT* Yea, I swear I hit the Gen advise forum, but this ended up in the dating one some how. I don't really want to date her, yet, I guess. Just wanted some advise on what ever. So far its all helped, thanks keep it coming please!!! Link to comment
DragonGirl724 Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 I'm not being all down about it, but like my second post on the first page, I will not see her at all next week. "ask her to lunch. either on her lunch hour (when youre both free) or on a weekend. dont be so pessimistic." read some of the advice posted....go to see her when you know shes working & ask her out. -DG724 Link to comment
Inconceivable Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 Age is nothing but a number! If you want to get to know her, do it! Just remember to treat her like a normal person! I had a friend who was mostly paralyzed on the left side of her body and she HATED being treated differently. Link to comment
Helpme86 Posted February 7, 2005 Author Share Posted February 7, 2005 Not sure if I said it, but she can read lips too. Not sure how well, but she can. BTW, I'm not the tpye that will just go and ask some one out. She saw me like once at work, and if I just droped by in street clothes and said, will you go out with me, I think she'd be a bit taken away. I don't even know her! I see it this way, how many other people are going to talk to her? None, so if I say anything anytime soon, I'll have the major upper hand. Link to comment
DragonGirl724 Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 I see it this way, how many other people are going to talk to her? None,.... what the hell makes you think that?? not everyone gets turned off b/c of a disability. youre proof of that! im sure she'll get people who are interested in her enough to approach her. -DG724 Link to comment
Helpme86 Posted February 7, 2005 Author Share Posted February 7, 2005 I see it this way, how many other people are going to talk to her? None,.... what the hell makes you think that?? not everyone gets turned off b/c of a disability. youre proof of that! im sure she'll get people who are interested in her enough to approach her. -DG724 What makes me think that? The people I work with, thats what makes me think that. Shall I quote some one when they found out shes deaf? "She's deaf eh? Well that makes it better, get it in there." I doubt very seriouslt that the people I work with will attempt to even talk to her. Yes, I could be wrong, and yes, not everyone gets turned off b/c of a disability. I guess its just wishful thinking. Right? Wow, this is in a new forum again. LOL, thanks. BTW, most of the people I work with are 18 and under and still in highschool. Well, besides my managers. Link to comment
DragonGirl724 Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 this topic should be under 1 of the following: Dating Asking Out For Date Attraction and Flirting Conversational Tips Dating and Shy People -DG724 Link to comment
Helpme86 Posted February 7, 2005 Author Share Posted February 7, 2005 I don't care where it is, just as long as people can see it I'm fine. Besides, right now, its not under any that you suggested. Thanks for the help though. Link to comment
QTpie87 Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 it's only three years older then you...not a lot when you really think about it... I dont' see any problems. well about the deaf thing, You know what would be really cool of you to do if you wanted to talk to her a little. Maybe get to talking to her a little, try and find out some of the things she likes. go to the library and check out a sing language book. it's so easy to learn, trust me if i can do it any body can. and it's really fun. that could hint on the fact that you might wanna get to know her a little better and that you are caring enough to take into considersation that she might like that. you don't have to know how to say everything...really, just learn a few words, maybe find out how to ask her her name or ask her some question. or even ask her on a date. If it were me i would think it would be cute if a guy did that. Link to comment
Helpme86 Posted February 7, 2005 Author Share Posted February 7, 2005 I just answerd your post, go check it out.^ Yea, I know my name in sign, the sign for boy, girl, and rhino. I want to figure out how to say "hi", but I cant find anything. Link to comment
QTpie87 Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 ok do you know the alphabet in sing? if you know the alphabet the lang becomes really easy to do , cause if you don't know the sign for the word you can spell it out with your fingers. Hi is just waving by the way. so yeah just thought i could help you there, and i can always pull out my sign book and let you know what to do with your hands to say something just pm me anytime k. oh yeah and thanx for answering my post. Link to comment
Helpme86 Posted February 7, 2005 Author Share Posted February 7, 2005 Hi is just waving by the way. I feel stupid now. I don't know the whole alphabet, just my first name, and last initial. I will either have a lot of time to practice this, or a lot of time to think of how I will talk to her. Because I have a feeling I will not see her for a while cuase of the times we work/days. Link to comment
Helpme86 Posted February 25, 2005 Author Share Posted February 25, 2005 Follow up, I don't think she works there anymore. Link to comment
Helpme86 Posted February 27, 2005 Author Share Posted February 27, 2005 Yea, she quit after one day. Link to comment
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