Meli33 Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 For the past few months when my hubby and i have sex, he has been getting soft during sex and unable to continue as he can not get hard again. Would you say he is no longer attracted to me? Link to comment
2600degrees Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 When you ask him what's going on, what's his response? Link to comment
Supernova1607309611 Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 How old is he, and is he on any medication? There are many medical conditions that can cause this (diabetes, blood pressure issues, artery or nerve damage due to age or disease, various medications). So he needs to get evaluated by a doctor because it could be a medical condition needing treatment. And if he's over 40, he might need Viagra to help with that because many men do lose that ability with age and need medication to perform. If you've eliminated medical issues, then he could be depressed, or have something on his mind, anything from not getting along with you right now and hence it impacts his feeings for you, to having an affair and feeling guilty about it. Link to comment
sleepingdonut Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 Probably a porn addiction Link to comment
Fresh Air Posted November 10, 2014 Share Posted November 10, 2014 lol, quite the prophetic analysis sleepingdonut. (Cool avatar, btw) Link to comment
Fresh Air Posted November 10, 2014 Share Posted November 10, 2014 If he's over 45, he should have a work up for vascular disease (cardiac evaluation). ED commonly precedes MI. Especially in smokers, diabetics, or in obesity. Link to comment
Meli33 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Share Posted November 10, 2014 When you ask him what's going on, what's his response? He gets upset with himself and says he doesn't know why he goes soft. Link to comment
Meli33 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Share Posted November 10, 2014 How old is he, and is he on any medication? There are many medical conditions that can cause this (diabetes, blood pressure issues, artery or nerve damage due to age or disease, various medications). So he needs to get evaluated by a doctor because it could be a medical condition needing treatment. And if he's over 40, he might need Viagra to help with that because many men do lose that ability with age and need medication to perform. If you've eliminated medical issues, then he could be depressed, or have something on his mind, anything from not getting along with you right now and hence it impacts his feeings for you, to having an affair and feeling guilty about it. He is 34 and i am 33. He is not on any medication and is quite fit. He works as a Tradie so his job us physical but not stressful. No, we are not fighting or mean to each other. He is definitely not having an affair as i have passwords to everything of his i.e. phone, emails, social media etc. Link to comment
Meli33 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Share Posted November 10, 2014 Probably a porn addiction Yes, he does watch porn (which i have absolutely no problem with as i watch it too) but he is definitely not addicted to it. Link to comment
Meli33 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Share Posted November 10, 2014 If he's over 45, he should have a work up for vascular disease (cardiac evaluation). ED commonly precedes MI. Especially in smokers, diabetics, or in obesity. He is 34 and a non smoker. Link to comment
PaintWithLight Posted November 10, 2014 Share Posted November 10, 2014 He is definitely not having an affair as i have passwords to everything of his i.e. phone, emails, social media etc. If there is no affair, how come you have a thread asking for books on how to deal with infidelity? So much of sex is mental, if there are trust issues, this is one way it will present itself. Link to comment
Meli33 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Share Posted November 10, 2014 If there is no affair, how come you have a thread asking for books on how to deal with infidelity? So much of sex is mental, if there are trust issues, this is one way it will present itself. His affair was over 4 years ago (no sex affair). We have moved passed this and he has done everything to make this marriage work and i have no reason to doubt him. Link to comment
PaintWithLight Posted November 11, 2014 Share Posted November 11, 2014 His affair was over 4 years ago (no sex affair). We have moved passed this and he has done everything to make this marriage work and i have no reason to doubt him. Yet last month you were asking for books on how to cope with cheating. I only mention this because the mind is the one thing you can't fool. If there is a secret, a grudge, a disconnect....it will surface in the bedroom. Link to comment
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