Pls...need advice...should I back off?

[lamb10]

So here is the situation...I'm falling for a guy at work. Our job is at a bar, so its a laid back atmosphere for dating and wouldn't be an issue except awekwardness.

I know he is at the very least physically attracted to me, but lately, interactions between us have become a bit more personal and emotional. I guess it could be considered the 2nd stage of flirting?

Anyhow...he preens me, helps, compliments, stares, worries about my well being and shares his feelings with me.

The other day I asked him a question related to work and I said that I believed him, there was a pause and he asked me: do you?, I paused and said "I do" and it felt as of we were hinting each other something completely different from the subject at hand.

So that you have an idea, our out of work interaction is brief and only hang out on our own a couple of times, but he seems to take much interest in the things I'm interested in and is very considerate of me.

He notices me and I notice him.

One night at work, while on break, some girl came to me and said oh yeah you are Mary(not my name),I asked john(not his name) who you were...and next thing she knows where I'm from and where I had lived prior to moving. Dunno if she was his sister or a friend. I just found it odd.

But anyways...now you get a better idea of this whole thing.

After work last nite, my other coworker(who's he's buff and roomy) invites me to come over w/ a bunch of other ppl. I get there n stay outside for a bit and when I go to get a drink, the roomy and buff escorts through the crowd by the hand but don't see john until another guy yells my name. I see john and he surprised says hi and conversed about me heading out and he leaves to go outside. I was right behind him walking out and while outside I said bye to a few people and ended up staying a fewore minutes. He didn't come close or paid any attention to me. I'm wondering why and if maybe I caused this for showing up there with a guy who's been crushing on me which btw...I don't flirt back with or lead on.

I'm in my 30s and he's in his 20s, so I have more confidence and I'm straight forward and don't play games of making men jealous or wait to call or whatever else.

What do you guys think I should do? Back off completely or give him a chance to pursue me and how?

Thanks for your help in advance..

I appreciate it