catfood Posted December 2, 2004 Share Posted December 2, 2004 I am a 23-year-old female. I've been dating a great guy for three months now, and this is the healthiest relationship I've ever been in. It's not perfect, but there is definitely mutual respect and courtesy. At the very beginning of the relationship, he learned that I was recently divorced. Like, very recently. As in things weren't legally finalized when we got together. My ex and I have a great relationship and there is no drama whatsoever, but I know that my current boyfriend was a bit freaked out by the divorce. Especially since I'm so young. I think he thought I might be a bit unstable or something. Anyway, so things are great, but we're definitely taking it slow. A few weeks ago however, we were coming home from the bars and he really opened up to me. He was concerned about getting involved with me too quickly after the divorce, and he was concerned that I "needed" him, that he was a crutch. The thing is, I honestly believe he's not a crutch. I left my husband before I even met him and don't feel like I "need" a man. I just want him. I told him so, and then he said he was afraid because he was falling in love with me. It was sooo unexpected and I didn't know what to say so I just said "You're drunk." To which he sort of laughed and said "Yeah, you're right." He wasn't too drunk though, and I know he remembers what happened. Anyway. lately things have been amazing. He's sooo caring and wonderful and I really believe I'm falling for him too. So my question is, should I tell him? I've come so close several times now, just blurting it out. But I know that: 1. Saying that too soon can freak a guy out 2. If he doesn't say it back I'll be freaked out and it might wind up being the end of us 3. I think he's still afraid that I "need" him and maybe thinks I would confuse love with need. On the other hand, I think life's too short to keep things like that bottled up. So what do you think? Thanks SO much. Any advice is appreciated. [/b] Quote Link to comment
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