A little help...

[Stinkweed]

I just need a little help literaly. Ok, I think I posted about this a while back. Ok, so there's a girl I think is cute in one of my classes. The problem is that I never see her, and she sits right behind me... So, how can I talk to her and make a good convo without making it look weird or freaky? The reason I haven't done this a while ago is because the schedule's been funky for a while, but it's going back to normal again. But since the semester is almost over, I was wondering how to talk to her if she sits right behind me, without making it seem to weird... Should I just say hi and try to make a conversation? Does it matter that there's all these people around us in the classroom? Does it matter that the semester is almost over? Should I wait till she's alone? What's the best option? I'd do anything as long as it isn't weird. So, just tell me what you think is a good idea. Best wishes.

[zab]

lol funny story man, do this, turn around, say hi n just initiate conversation about her (girls love 2 hear about themselves i have learned) there is no way thats weird, if she thinks its weird then she needs to see a specialist about that lol, hope that helps

 

Zab

[Sebulous]

I usually have carry just my books, a bad pen, and a good pen with me at school. perfect for when you want to get to talk to someone.

 

Reasons to talk a girl in class.

-loose your place in the book.

-forget your book and have to share with her.

-ask to borrow paper, appologize about it say atleast you didn't forget your pen (which is out of ink). be humorous about the pen.

 

 

After class thank her once again for everything and mention you really saved you in class or what ever. make some small talk and ask which class she has next and just walk and talk to her.

 

next day you should be able to talk to her in class and out of class without it seeming weird at all. if your brave repeat it all the next day but at the end of class, or if she catches on, just say you did it just so you could talk to her. then say how you liked to talk to her, talking to someone; cute, pretty, attractive, sexy (pick one) makes the time fly in class. Course then you quickly ask if shes looking pretty for anyone special; BF, special guy, special girl? (playing funny again). eleminates the BF problem. once you compliment her and see if she has a BF that same day, ya kinda have to make notion of asking her out.

 

hope that helps

[lillady898]

Sebulous had some extremely good ways to talk to her, and that's from a females perspective. I have actually used the "losing the place in the book" excuse to talk to a guy, or have acted like I needed some help with understanding something (without overdoing it and coming off as too helpless ). Both work very well. But don't accept this: You ask her where you're supposed to be at in the book, she gives you a page number and points, and then you turn around. You'd have your foot in the door after that, but nothing more than that. You could do that 100 times and you'd get nowhere, except she may tell you to start paying better attention. Make her laugh or say something about what you're doing, something thats common ground. If all else fails, just say hi and make small talk whenever you have the chance. Good luck, although I'm sure you don't need it

[Stinkweed]

Sebulous had some extremely good ways to talk to her, and that's from a females perspective. I have actually used the "losing the place in the book" excuse to talk to a guy, or have acted like I needed some help with understanding something (without overdoing it and coming off as too helpless ).

 

I'm not so sure about this... I mean, out of all people (I have people right in front of me, and beside me as well...) wouldn't it be weird if I turn around 180 degrees just to ask something so silly like what page we're supposed to be on or if she has a piece of paper or whatever? I dunno... I think it'd be kind of awkward, and even if it isn't that awkward, I'd still feel it is... So, I guess I have yet another question wouldn't it be good enough to do what zab said? What do the ladies have to say about all this? What would they prefer a guy to do if he was on my situation? Lol, it'd be so much easier if she sat beside me, and not behind me...

[Stinkweed]

Oh, come on. Well, I guess I'll just do what spaz said then, even if it's not the best way (I hope it is... I trust your advice)... I mean, it sounds coherent to me... Thanks everyone and best wishes.

[Mastermind]

I can relate to your situation. However, I plan on doing whatever it takes since I have nothing to lose in my situation and you don't either. Don't worry about such unimportant things like people around you. If you worry about it, then it's just going to make things harder. Believe me, I have been through a lot but have learned a lot from it. I have also learned that if you think too much about what her reaction may be, it can cause anxiety so just keep your cool and go for it. Once you start some small talk, in due time it should be a lot easier to talk to her more often.

 

Good luck

[69_king]

Oh Man!!! Why didn't I think of that pen thing when I was in university?

 

There were lots of girls I sat next to but never said anything and the bad thing is the longer you leave it, the weirder you think its going to sound.

 

Its like you've sat next to this girl for 3 months without saying a word and then suddenly you're just going to turn around and say "Hello, I'm so and so, whats your name?".

 

Actually, I don't think I ever sat next to a girl for that long without saying something!

[Stinkweed]

Its like you've sat next to this girl for 3 months without saying a word and then suddenly you're just going to turn around and say "Hello, I'm so and so, whats your name?".

 

Oh well. Then forget this. I guess I'll have to pay more attention to my surroundings next semester... Although I'd like to try, at least for practice's sake... But if it's too weird, then it doesn't matter. Thanks everyone. Best wishes.

[69_king]

I didn't mean to put you off like that. I meant it feels weird to you but not necessarily to her. Imagine if she said hi to you after 3 months, how would you feel? You'd be happy, you wouldn't feel its weird.

[Stinkweed]

That's alright. Well, you're right, I'd feel happy if she said hi to me after 3 months. But I dunno what she will feel if I say hi. I mean, she probably doesn't find me attractive and won't even notice much about it... But we don't know that for sure. I'd have to see her reaction, or something... But like an above poster said, I've got nothing to loose, so I'll just try my best, and if it doesn't work, then it doesn't matter. After all, there's a new semester coming up, and new people to meet.

[Stinkweed]

Well, I finally said something to her (I can't believe I did it. After all, I'm not that hopeless...). It was a small conversation, pretty short, and I know it could've been longer, but at least I tried... Well, at least it was only the first conversation... Anyway, there was a nice tone to her, so I don't think she thought it was awkward... I'll keep talking to her from now on, more and more, because I know it's not weird, or awkward. Just posted this in case the people who helped me wanted to know. Thanks everyone.

[randy]

Thats NICE!!! very NICE!!!