Why wont he make a move?

[JoyieGracie]

He flirts with me all the time. We car pool together to school. We talk about some private issues. He's said he likes me. He said I was pretty. He finds ways to touch me.

 

Why won't he just ask me out?

 

Guys that I have dated in the past, I pretty much had to tell them to ask me out. I'm sick of making the first move, and I'm wondering why guys wont just ask me out when they have a crush on me.

[69_king]

he probably considers you his girlfriend already.

[JoyieGracie]

he probably considers you his girlfriend already.

 

So, he doesn't feel the need to ask me?

[OmegaAspect]

Im not necessarily sure that he already considers you his girlfriend, as far as he basically considers what you have a relationship. I suggest you confront him about it. He may either be too shy to ask or afraid of the commitment the official and intimidating "Going Out" entails.

[mr sad]

asking someone out is the hardest thing ive ever had to do. it takes more courage then a lot of us guys have.

 

is he a shy, quiet kinda dude? that could be part of why he wont

[hyolee]

hmm i dont think you should think he thinks your his girlfriend already. well i think if you like him and if you think he likes you back, just ask him about it.

[JoyieGracie]

asking someone out is the hardest thing ive ever had to do. it takes more courage then a lot of us guys have.

 

is he a shy, quiet kinda dude? that could be part of why he wont

 

That's just it. He's not shy. He's very out going, except when it comes to this I guess.

[JonnyG]

lol your sick of it! If u were a guy u would be expected to ask everyone out/make first move, all the time for the rest of your life. The fact is your going to ask out less people than 90% of us guys will in our life, so count yourself lucky in that respect.

 

U question why he wont ask u out. In the year 2004, perhaps u can ask him out? Your sick of it though right? Perhaps he's sick of asking girls out and is hoping u will ask him?

 

From what u said though, Im not sure why he hasen't asked u out yet. Perhaps he's worried that u only see him as a friend and not more than that? Maybe he just needs more time. Or perhaps he isn't interested in more than being flirty friends?

[hyolee]

hmm i prefere the girl to ask me out that way its easier for me, but thats just my thing....

[JoyieGracie]

hmm i dont think you should think he thinks your his girlfriend already. well i think if you like him and if you think he likes you back, just ask him about it.

 

I've tried to ask him who he likes, and he won't tell me. My friend even asked if he liked me, and he told her "I can't tell you that."

 

I don't want to make the first move, becuase I've had to in the past, and I feel like if he doesn't ask me, he's not that interested. I am not sure if that's true, but I don't know what else to think.

[hyolee]

well i think if you really like him you should go for the first move like a easy one and see what happans.

[JoyieGracie]

How can I drop hints that I want him too?

[hyolee]

well you can try calling him now and then but not everyday, it gets annoying when someone calls everyday. but yeah drop him few hints that you like him. invite him to chill or something and talk to him a lot. and smile at him and stuff

[incredble]

has he ever had a gf? if no then hes too shy to ask..

if he had one in the past... i donno maybe he thinks ur just a good friend

[mr sad]

what did he say again when your friend asked if he like you?

he would have said no if he didnt like you. even ive used the "i cant tell you that" line. when i said it, it meant "im totally in love with her but i want to talk about it to her and her alone"

from my point of view its not a no.

 

looking for ways to hint that you like him?

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i asked the exact same thing

[traz]

you mentioned in your first post that you know he likes you...but does he know that you like him?

 

That's a big part of it..if a girl KNOWS I like her, but I don't know if she likes me, I'm not going to do anything. Since she knows, then the balls in her court as far as I'm concerned.

 

If he DOESN'T know you like him, I suggest you tell him.

 

If he DOES know...well then he's probably just really shy, or uninterested, in which case you should just talk to him.

 

Talking solves alot of problems...screw "hints", be mature and talk