NEED HELP PLZ: HE DOESNT CALL

[Miss Sweet]

Hi everyone this is my first post so hi to u all

 

I have been having a long distance relationship with this guy for 9 months now. Its a long distance relationship 4 hrs drive to get to his city. Our first 6 months of relationship was soo good...sure we had problems but i always trusted him and we had good times. Something happened i found out about a girl who came between us and did something to me via internet becoz she is jealous about me and him and has been after my bf for a while. When i confronted him he said she is only a friend and did a favour took care of his dog. So i forgave him i trusted him. But now he doesnt call me and I call him all the time sometimes he doesnt return my calls everything has changed. I have talked to him and he says we need to take things "easy" whatever that means. I call him like 2 times a week but he wont call me in a week. His explaination he is very super busy opening a store....for some reason i dont buy it and i am driving my self crazy thinking what to do....he is my very first serious bf with the longest relationship and believe me i love him so much but he keeps pushing me away...why cant guys just be honest and end a dead end relationship if he doesnt like me no more or doesnt want me anymore...i have tried talking to him but he seems mad at me..i dont trust him but its so hard walking away from him coz i keep thinking i am the one doing something wrong here.....its long distance and its hard for me to just get up and go see him becoz of family and cultural issues...should i go confront him with everything at his place???????????should i end this relationship since i dont trust him no more????????????or do i keep on trying coz i am so hurt and sad/?

 

 

plz help with your comments and suggestions..

 

thanks a lot

[cs20thcenturyfox]

Hello Miss Sweet

 

First of all I think you two should sit down and really talk things over before you do anything rash like call it quits. Maybe he's just going through something that he thinks you wouldn't understand about. Also just give him some time. One thing I learned about men is that they need alot of "time". Don't push him to do anything he doesn't want and don't pressure him either. Doing that only pushes him further away. In the mean time, try doing something for yourself. Go out and try to have a good time instead of worrying so much. Good luck.

[Miss Sweet]

Hello Miss Sweet

 

First of all I think you two should sit down and really talk things over before you do anything rash like call it quits. Maybe he's just going through something that he thinks you wouldn't understand about. Also just give him some time. One thing I learned about men is that they need alot of "time". Don't push him to do anything he doesn't want and don't pressure him either. Doing that only pushes him further away. In the mean time, try doing something for yourself. Go out and try to have a good time instead of worrying so much. Good luck.

 

Hi cs20century fox...thanks so much for your reply! THat is what some of my other friends have adviced me...and that is what my bf says give me time and take it easy.... ..its so hard when u miss someone and think they dont like u anymore or dont want u...ufff

 

One more question since i am not so experienced with guys and relationships....HE SAYS HE LIKES ME BUT NOT SURE IF HE LOVES ME....even after 9 months of us together and our relationship....should i be worried lol since i have already told him i love him?

[cs20thcenturyfox]

One more question since i am not so experienced with guys and relationships....HE SAYS HE LIKES ME BUT NOT SURE IF HE LOVES ME....even after 9 months of us together and our relationship....should i be worried lol since i have already told him i love him?

 

If you told him you loved him and he didn't say anything back...chances are he doesn't feel the same. Maybe you just need to back off a bit...ya know? Love can be a very scary thing...especially if you got hurt before. Give it time girl, maybe he'll come around. Good luck

[Miss Sweet]

*Sigh...ya i think he doesnt love me...but its hard to even think someone whom u spent so many special moments and thoughts and other things would not love you... ...i think i am not going to call him at all even if it kills me...i am going to let him go and if he ever comes back then it was meant to be and if not then let it be ....