PrincessLinzay Posted November 18, 2004 Share Posted November 18, 2004 My ex and I broke up about 2 1/2 months ago. I had changed my number and we didn't talk for 1 1/2 months of this time. When we did finally talk, he told me how much he had missed me, couldn't believe that I had changed my number, had been contemplating coming to my work to talk to me..... At first I kept things pretty level. I talked to him on the phone, we hung out occasionally (we did have sex). But I was also interested in someone else, so I was pursuing that. I ended up finding out that the other guy I was interested in was also interested in me, but I was still having feelings for the ex also. Despite his missing me and blah blah blah, he says that right now he can't be in a relationship because he has too much going on (with regards to his family, both parents and a sister are sick, he's fighting for visitation with his kids, etc). In a nutshell, the ex wants all the benefits of being in a relationship with none of the responsibility. He wants someone to be there for him, be faithful, loving, and all that other stuff, but not have to be considered a boyfriend and have those same expectations. Im so torn about what to do. I tried to pretty much sever contact last night but it's hard because even if we aren't together, I still care about him and whats going on in his life. I don't really know what to do at this point. I still want to pursue something with the other guy, but I know I can't have my cake and eat it too. If I start anything with someone else, the ex would be devastated. I just think I have a better chance at something healthy with this other guy, who is very stable, smart, funny..... I still love the ex, but I don't want to wait for him to get his s@#! together (we were together for 2 years). I want to be happy too. Advice anyone? Should I just distance myself from something unhealthy and go for something new that could potentially be very healthy? This is so hard!!! Quote Link to comment
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