She called me mate.....

[farqy]

Hey guy

 

Quiet a simple one here, i like a girl i have met on a new univeristy course, we have known each other for a matter of weeks, we chat all day when we are together, and on msn in the evenings.

 

I thought there might be a mutial attraction, but she called me 'mate'

am i just being a typical man reading into this

 

or does it kill all chances i have with her.

 

help

[stolenshadow]

Hi, I wouldn't worry one bit, she's just friendly.

She might not want to call you "love" if you're not going out, no matter how good friends you are.

You have the same chances with her than if she called you by your last name, don't worry.

[farqy]

cheers, i guess i am just over analysing what she says.

 

Any ideas what it means when she is very chatty and friendly to me, but avoids eye contact 70% of the time (she doesnt seem a really shy girl)

[stolenshadow]

Well, I think there could be several reasons for that.

 

1.- She really is shy.

 

2.- She doesn't like to make eye contact often.

 

3.- She's concerned about how she looks.

 

4.- She finds those "eye contact with silence" moments difficult so prefers to avoid them.

 

5.- She doesn't pay attention to eye contact, let's say she's just not too interested in those things.

 

It's ok to pay attention to her body language and such I think, but the easiest way to get an answer to how she reacts when she's with you is asking her out or something like that, or just be a bit more direct to what your intentions are, she really seems to enjoy talking to you a lot, so just take it from there.

Good Luck.

[farqy]

i think i am just going to let a friendship develop and see what happens, i have on numerous occasions miss read a situation and ended up chasing a lost cause, or getting led up the garden path by some silly girl who likes the attention of guys.

 

women are effort...

 

but worth it