ff2afewyearslater Posted October 23, 2004 Share Posted October 23, 2004 I hope I'm not the only one online on a Friday night, because I could use some good advice, especially from the guys. I'm a 27 year old female, there is a guy at work (he's 30) that I am so, so, so attracted to (problem: he has a girlfriend in another city). We talk a lot (work in the same office suite), eat lunch together everyday (usually in a group) so we basically spend 40-50 hours per week together. We laugh and joke a lot; we stare at each other without breaking eye contact when we talk. So please tell me...is it possible for a guy to spend this much time with a girl and not think about her as more than a co-worker/friend, even if he has a girlfriend? And if he was not attracted to me, would he continue to look at me like he does, take cigarette breaks with me outside, and joke with me? I thought I had him figured out, I thought he liked me. Then today, at lunch by ourselves, we get on the subject of religion. He is not a very religious person, but he brings up his girlfriend in the conversation (he NEVER talks about her) and says something like "you know, my girlfriend is Buddhist." I was completely speechless, not because his girlfriend was Buddhist, but because he never mentions her and he did today. So all these signals I thought I was getting suddenly were thrown out the window, I think. So guys, please tell me: (1) if you are around a woman that much and have a good working relationship with her, are you attracted to her (even if you have a girlfriend) and (2) if you were attracted to the woman at work, would you mention the girlfriend in conversation? Please be brutally honest. I am really confused and need to know if he is telling me to back off....but then he starts acting like he likes me again. What is going on? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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