sevenohnine709 Posted March 25, 2012 Share Posted March 25, 2012 Ok i am a 21 year old male. In the past 5 years i have been in 4 different year long relationships, before that i was a pretty big "nerd" played video games 10 hours a day so i did not socialize very much at all. Not i have been single for about 5-6 months and i am finding it very very difficult to talk to girls unless they are at a party with my friends where i feel comfortable and its casual. I want to be able to go up to a girl at a bar, on the bus, anywhere who i am attracted to and just be able to talk. I do not even care if anything ever does come out of it... i know one day something may but if i do not get the ability to talk to girls nothing ever will.. When i get very drunk i can go up to a girl and say hi, most of the times after that introduction i'll choke. I am extremely bad with coming up with interesting topics to talk to them or making them laugh therefore most likely it becomes ackward... so i am hesitant to saying anything to girls unless i have a "IN" like a friend to introduce me, or a very specific reason to talk to them like they sit next to me in a class etc.. How are some ways i could get over this fear? Become a better conversation starter, have more confidence and pull off a good friendly conversation with a girl i did not know a few minutes before.. Link to comment
OracleofDoom Posted March 25, 2012 Share Posted March 25, 2012 I just make a few random comments as developing communication skills is an art -social strength is like a muscle the more you use it the easier it becomes -"talking" while obviously important is the least important of all communication -trusting yourself and keeping it light and simple>coming up with interesting topics, pressure offense etc... -if you are still in college,an interpersonal communications course will give you an in depth understanding of what is going on Link to comment
sevenohnine709 Posted March 25, 2012 Author Share Posted March 25, 2012 I am in university still. I never thought about the possible communications course. I will have to check that out . Link to comment
sevenohnine709 Posted March 25, 2012 Author Share Posted March 25, 2012 Also i started thinking maybe if i got involved in more activities around my university that it may help me learn some more communication skills / conversational starters. I find if i have a "Reason" to talk to someone i am fine with it. Such as a class mate, or a friend at a party. It is the random girl sitting on the bus, or the girl sitting at the bar with her friends who i find i have the most trouble trying to start up a conversation with.. because situationally i have no reason to talk to them other than the fact i wish to get to know them more.. to me this makes it ackward.. Link to comment
OracleofDoom Posted March 25, 2012 Share Posted March 25, 2012 If you join some kind of group in college thats the easiest way to meet females and will definitley improve your communication confidence all around. Link to comment
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