Enigmatical Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 Do you ever become bothered by the way some other people are living? I sometimes am. My roommates are a couple. The female we will call "A" and her boyfriend is "J." First let me point out that our rent and bills are split evenly between all of us. We pay rent, electric, and cable, that's it. This is probably the most affordable living situation you can get around here. "A" is a stripper at this club in the next town over which is about a 20 mins drive. She makes about double what I do in a month in tips alone, sometimes more. "J" was working in a factory but was laid off for a month and now he just started working again. I recently found out that J covers all of her costs so she pays nothing out of her own pocket to live here, which I guess is his choice as long as the bills get payed. However, the cable bill is in my name and since J was laid off for a month, he didn't have the money to give for either his portion or her portion either, which I understand. But it reflected negatively on my account and credit report. I'm not mad at him. I'm bothered because "A" makes all this money and she blows it on frivolous things. I know she's made more than enough money to make up for J being laid off, which would have been considerate of her to do, but she still decides to blow it. I consider A a friend kind of, but her actions just bother me. She flashes hundreds in front of me and tells me that she makes hundreds from one client and then tells J she doesn't makes squat, and he believes her. After she gets off work at 3 am, she takes her and 3 of her work friends out to eat at this 24 hour cafe and then she takes all of them home and they live scattered all over town. So she blows most of her earnings on gas for her car, going out to eat, and she comes home with new clothes and costumes that she buys. She has even blown money on buying me things, (I didn't ask her to). She talks about trying to buy a $100 stripper pole, all these decorations for Christmas, and going on trips accross the country next year...but she can't be bothered to pay her own bills here. She even sometimes doesn't come home for like 2 days and stays in hotels for some reason. She'll tell J, "I don't want to drive home tonight so I'll just stay in hotel." It's not event that far of a drive. 20 mins. So J often sits here at home by himself while she stays out all night or in hotels doing God knows what. I don't know how he puts up with it. This morning, she was supposed to come home by 5 am so he could use her car to get to his new job and she called him at around 4am and said she was on her way. She didn't show up until 7am and he missed work on what was supposed to be his 3rd day at his new job, so he likely in trouble if not fired...so they were fighting this morning because she had some shady excuse for being late. Another thing she does that irritates me is that she is friends with this guy who used to be J's best friend but him and A screwed around a few times while A and J were on a break, and J found out so J is super uncomfortable with A being friends with him, but A still insists on hanging out with him all the fricking time. Honestly, it wouldn't surprise me if he was the reason she stays in hotels when she gets the chance. So they fight all the time about that guy and I'm thinking, why does she do that? Like, it seems I come accross all these girls that pick the most push over dudes they can find so they can take advantage of their money and trust. I wonder if they do it on purpose and I just didn't get the memo. I know my bf wouldn't put it with it if I tried pulling the stuff she does. You know, I choose to have a boyfriend who knows he doesn't deserve to be shafted and I also choose to make an honest living and be responsible with my money. It's women like her who give the rest of us a bad name. I guess this is more of a rant than a request for advice. Do you ever get mentally wrapped up in the lives of others who do things you find wrong? Link to comment
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