jumper11 Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 So I've gone through what everyone's going through, ex came back and came to my door but I was seeing somebody, and more or less needed time since I was hurt so bad and waited so long for him. He had broken up with me and it was a 5 year relationship. Fast forward 3 or so months from then and I'm back and we've been talking/etc. for 4 months since and we are everything now except official. He has a lot of family problems so its delayed us actually being official, and it also attributed to him leaving me (I mean huge problems, like homeless problems, mental illness, etc.) and also I think there's a part of him having a hard time dealing that I dated somebody. He was seeing someone at some point but it never went beyond that. I know he needs time to fix the problems. He doesn't want to come back with the same problems he left me with. Though a few months ago he came back but he thought the problems were almost gone. I just need some advice I guess. I'm in a weird place where we are getting back together but just don't have the title yet. And no, we aren't just friends. But if I explained my whole story it'd be an essay. Reconciliation doesn't just happen like that so no, he is not using me. I just need help when and how to back off, when we are at the stage where he is telling me how much he loves me, and telling me we're gradually becoming more, etc. I've never gone through reconciliation before, so I'm looking for help from those who have. This is not a breakup, we are getting back together so this is not a matter of NC this, etc. Been there done that, now I'm here. Link to comment
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