ferna3069 Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 ok so im trying to cheer some of you guys up. and i thought it would be fun to make a thread about the bad advice you recieved it can be about a break up or pretty much anything.il go first Link to comment
ferna3069 Posted May 18, 2011 Author Share Posted May 18, 2011 when my ex broke up with me this is some of the things i was told. best friend so i called my best friend after the break up and told him i was heart broken. this is what he told me. 1 man this sucks. your going to be heart broken for a while.your going to do some stupid things. like take a road trip to visit her. or your going to think about suicide when your by yourself.your going to drink. and do some crazy stuff my mom if you cant be her bf right now be her friend stay friends with her until she gets a bf. that way you can move on. i love my mom and she is a good person lol i just never thought she would say something like that. and my best friend well he was in month three of a break up. but yeah that was bad advice. Link to comment
nutbrownhare Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 "Pull yourself together!" When I worked for the Samaritans, we had a light-hearted-but-not-exactly-joking set of Commandments. The first one was "Thou shalt not tell callers 'Pull yourself together'". But how many people actually do just that, thinking that they're being helpful? Link to comment
sfindependent Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 my dad: keep pushing her, call her and ask her back (not verbatim but the gist). do whatever she wants you to do at home... Link to comment
Danny77 Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 Tell her you cant go on without her. If she has a guilty bone in her body then she`ll take you back. Link to comment
Grace696 Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 "The only way to get over someone is to get under someone else." (I did NOT follow this terrible advice...) Link to comment
Janeiac Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 Why I shouldn't be a vegetarian: Meat was good enough for the good lord when he was on this earth, it should be good enough for you! I was speechless. Link to comment
slammin16 Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 try not to think about her ( sure thing, a girl I loved with all my heart you want me pretend she never existed!!) Link to comment
sidehop Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 Why I shouldn't be a vegetarian: Meat was good enough for the good lord when he was on this earth, it should be good enough for you! I was speechless. lolol that's too funny. Link to comment
ferna3069 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Share Posted May 19, 2011 "The only way to get over someone is to get under someone else." (I did NOT follow this terrible advice...) jaja man same advice i got from my friend another one was do random girls like crazy trust me u will feel better Link to comment
itsgonnabgood Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 After receiving the unsolicited news that my ex not only was seeing someone new, she had in fact been seeing them before she dumped me: "aw don't be depressed! Plenty more fish in the sea." Link to comment
ferna3069 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Share Posted May 19, 2011 After receiving the unsolicited news that my ex not only was seeing someone new, she had in fact been seeing them before she dumped me: "aw don't be depressed! Plenty more fish in the sea." man i hate when people tell me this. its like yeah but right now im not up to go fishing lol Link to comment
ladyninja30 Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 Why I shouldn't be a vegetarian: Meat was good enough for the good lord when he was on this earth, it should be good enough for you! I was speechless. I respect that you are vegetarian but that advice really is hilarious. "The only way to get over someone is to get under someone else." (I did NOT follow this terrible advice...) not only is this bad advice I was given as well but that the person I should get under to get back at my ex was his brother...um no! After receiving the unsolicited news that my ex not only was seeing someone new, she had in fact been seeing them before she dumped me: "aw don't be depressed! Plenty more fish in the sea." yeah this sucks too as well as people telling you not worth it just move on..right cuz it's soo easy to just ignore those feelings isn't it....grr From my own mother who told me to stop being stupid and go to a party where my ex would be with the new * * * * * and go flirt with his brother, and flaunt myself around there so everyone knows he was stupid for leaving me for her...um people already think that but thanks mom...I am most certainly not a flaunt myself type of person. I get anxiety when I see her with him so that's how she thought I should deal with that. I found that slightly insensitive but that's how my crazy mother just is. (it makes more sense if you know my mom) Link to comment
allsunny Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 Oh, he'll regret it someday. Just give him some space. He's going to ask you back. Link to comment
replytome Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 "The only way to get over someone is to get under someone else." (I did NOT follow this terrible advice...) I think it's not always terrible advice. As long as you have the right mindset. Don't do it to get over the ex, let that be a side effect. Do it cos you're horny. Of course I think it is way more applicable to men, since they can dissociate sex with emotions. Link to comment
deavyin Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 My therapist after my first big break up (we were together for 5 years and she left me for my best friend) told me: she'll definitely come back to you...I've seen it happen time and time again. Thanks for the hope buddy...it's been 4 years now...WHERE IS SHE? Not that I would ever want to get back with her at all but still. Do not give people false hope like that. This current girl I've been told the whole "stay her friend' crap and "get under someone else" "go out there and party and bang chicks". All horrible advice. I can't even talk to my mom about it because all she says is "christ man, you were only together for 3 months..man up and get over her". I always hated hearing "screw her man, she isn't worth it. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you...it's her loss". Yeah, her loss..sure feels like that. She sure did lose out since i'm the one who is heart broken and she is the one who is already in a new relationship...sucks for her..i shouldn't have been so hard on her. Link to comment
Dryyoureyes Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 "It's awesome that you want to fight for it" my flatmate after the breakup. was a waste of a lot of money,time and effort Link to comment
replytome Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 I can't even talk to my mom about it because all she says is "christ man, you were only together for 3 months..man up and get over her". I always hated hearing "screw her man, she isn't worth it. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you...it's her loss". Yeah, her loss..sure feels like that. She sure did lose out since i'm the one who is heart broken and she is the one who is already in a new relationship...sucks for her..i shouldn't have been so hard on her. LOL! Sorry, that was funny. Try to remember that it is more the fact that your ego got a big blow, because she found someone else. Mine has too, after 1.5 years and living together, and she finds someone (her coworker, ugly dude and a loser) after about 3 weeks but probably had her eye on him before? don't know don't care.they're both omegas while i'm alpha...hmm. I personally believe in the end we'll be better off. They obviously aren't self sufficient, and have no sense of identity, instead they constantly need to find themselves in others and never actually see the people they date as individuals. They're losers man. Weak human beings. Weak and pathetic...and will never lead fulfilling lives. Ugh...getting angry now. Link to comment
HLamb Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 "Everything happens for a reason...." Maybe it does but I really don't wanna be hearing that so soon after the break up. Link to comment
replytome Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 "This is not a soap opera. Grow up." -Mother Link to comment
Tanzi Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 "Forget him, go and get yourself a real man". Yeah, cos it really is that simple. Not to mention I thought I already had!! Link to comment
LN1987 Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 "Forget him, go and get yourself a real man". Yeah, cos it really is that simple. Not to mention I thought I already had!! Haha Ive had this "go fall in love with the real thing" Yeh ok what do you think I thought I was just doing for 16months... Link to comment
FarthestEdge Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 "It's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man" Sure mom, except I was never looking for someone to 'take care of me'- I'll do that myself, thanks. Link to comment
CMS Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 "You need a rebound ASAP, find a girl thats more into you than you her and dump her" - My best friend. No thank you Link to comment
therebounded Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 “Next time, go for someone who isn’t so good-looking but someone who’s kind.” – My Mom Lol, I can’t really help who I’m attracted to though initially, if they happen to be jerks right from the get go I obviously wouldn’t have let it get past the first date. Link to comment
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