Am i unfair ???

[engraved2008]

Ok i m trying to work out the things.However i have to pay my new spouse half of the mortage today.I was short 100 and he got upset.there are 4 people in that house,me,him and his parents .Parents are on disability.I do respect his family ,however they have some strange rules...they do not want me to touch their food or milk and stuff without telling them or they get upset.He is the same way....since he wants everything so separate...does not even want to put money together with me...Do u think is unfair for me to ask that everyone should pay 1/4 of bills,meaning 1/4 of mortage,light,water ,cable ...and even food....?????I mean he wants everything so separate ??? Do u think i m unfair now in asking this???

[pumpkinmoon]

Ok I don't get this at all. Basically you are supporting his parents with him? I understand that they are on disability, so if they cannot afford to pay towards the mortgage, he should be paying 3/4 of it and you should be paying 1/4.

 

This might sound a bit shallow, but what if you break up? You will have wasted a lot of money supporting someone else's parents. I couldn't live in a situation like this.

[agent1607307371]

Do u think i m unfair now in asking this???

 

I am wondering why this wasn't a red flag and resolved before you married him.

 

But if you only make up 1/4 of the household, I don't think it's right that you pay 1/2 of the mortgage. Did you buy the house togehter?

[engraved2008]

I do love him...but see,it seems like he wants to put the hard on me ,he states they cleaning up the house...but we are not there to mess it up...we come home in the evening...i mean i can clean up for me and him...and yes u right,what if we break up

[engraved2008]

No,the house was bought in his name.

[pumpkinmoon]

No,the house was bought in his name.

 

This is a BIG MISTAKE! If for whatever reason you divorce, you will have nothing after having paid half of the mortgage for god knows how long. I'd have a serious talk with him about putting your name on the documents.

[engraved2008]

another thing is that he is stating he loves me but he is still tells me lies....last night his phone was vibrating around 12:30 and he jumped from bed stating the battery goes off...i seen him standing with the phone in hands cheking mesagges and deleting...and then he walked with the phone end putted in the charger.