cristianator23 Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 im a bi 19 yr old... in january I told pretty much everyone except my family about me... my best friend is a guy and i'm pretty sure i'm in love with him. He was one of the first people i told and ever since then we just got closer. i dont know what to do... it's getting to the point where i can't sleep and i'm constantly thinking about him...we're always together... all of our friends think he's bi and are convinced he has feelings for me too. even his ex girlfriend who were are still friends with texted him asking if he was bi one night when he was with me. i dont really know what im asking for with this thread but i kind of just needed to vent. i told him after that he got that text that maybe we should stop hanging out so much because we have both had people ask us if we are together and he said he had a feeling that people thought that and he agreed that we should. it's been a week since then and he still talks to me and we still hangout like nothing...its just really getting to me...do i tell him i have feelings for him? Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 Why not ask him if he has feelings for you? Link to comment
cristianator23 Posted June 22, 2010 Author Share Posted June 22, 2010 i just don't know how to go about doing that :S Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 i just don't know how to go about doing that :S "You know I'm bi and we spend a lot of time together - do you feel anything more for me?" if yes "Hey, awesome, let's have coffee and make fun of people." if no "Hey, awesome, let's go make fun of people." Link to comment
mmmd Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 being straight, my impression is he probably is in the same boat as you. and if he isn't, i doubt he's so ignorant that he doesn't have an inkling that you like him. i would just summon as much courage as you can and ask him if he has feelings for you. i don't think things would be shattered if he says no. best of luck. Link to comment
Ebrithil Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 On the other hand he is your best friend you are close and you have a really good relationship, he has a girlfriend so if he is bi or not do you really want to put the ball in his court to make him chose to end his relationship and be with you or stay in his relationship and things get a bit awkward. I personaly wouldnt say anything to somone if I had feelings for them if they were with somone else as I wouldnt want to put them in that position, if they wanted to end the relationship on their own terms to be with you thats diffrent. But maybe thats why Im still single. Link to comment
cristianator23 Posted June 23, 2010 Author Share Posted June 23, 2010 On the other hand he is your best friend you are close and you have a really good relationship, he has a girlfriend so if he is bi or not do you really want to put the ball in his court to make him chose to end his relationship and be with you or stay in his relationship and things get a bit awkward. I personaly wouldnt say anything to somone if I had feelings for them if they were with somone else as I wouldnt want to put them in that position, if they wanted to end the relationship on their own terms to be with you thats diffrent. But maybe thats why Im still single. nono he doesnt have a girlfriend hasn't had one since her 2 years ago. and hasnt been with anyone ever since ive told him i was bi... there was one girl he worked with who wanted to be " * * * * buddies" with him but he blew her off every time to hang out with me instead... (awkward story time but kind of necessary) We all went camping on may long weekend a month ago with a bunch of friends and we shared a tent and when it was just us two in the tent and we were drunk he told me things like how he was hard and horny (sharing a pillow nonetheless) but wasn't even trying to hook up with any of the girls there and was just with me the whole time... like is it just me or is that not something you say to your bi best friend unless there's something going on there... Link to comment
mmmd Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 i think you're good to go dude. sounds like you will be touching penises shortly. Link to comment
Ebrithil Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 Ok well in that case forget my first post it sounds like you have a fairly good chance there. That was a pritty stong hint, maybe he just doesnt want to make the first move, I say chose your moments and it should go well for you. Link to comment
cristianator23 Posted June 23, 2010 Author Share Posted June 23, 2010 hahaha mmmd that comment actually made me LOL ha nice. yeah I'm probably gonna end up doing it when im drunk hahah Link to comment
cristianator23 Posted June 23, 2010 Author Share Posted June 23, 2010 a bunch of my friends just think that maybe he's not ready to deal with it yet...like being with a guy Link to comment
cristianator23 Posted June 24, 2010 Author Share Posted June 24, 2010 so I think i may say something to him this weekend... His exgirlfriend I told you about texted me last night and told me that I need to talk to him about it haha * * * * anyone got any success stories that will make me feel better? Haha Link to comment
Aim33 Posted July 26, 2010 Share Posted July 26, 2010 I'm going through a similar thing, except in my case we are both girls. Im not sure if u said whether this guy was straight/bi or gay but if u have then sorry. I asked my friend if she liked girls and she said yes then kept on changing her mind and saying she was straight, but yet kissed me I know this doesnt really answer your question but just thought i would let you know that im going through a similar thing x Link to comment
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