hellohello1 Posted May 31, 2010 Share Posted May 31, 2010 Ok, so im sure many of you have read my story, but if not here is a summary: my boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me on tuesday, claiming he did not know what he wants, he has doubts, hes confused, feels like he has "cold feet". i have trust issues and can be jealous adn controlling and i thikn he is tired of that. when he broke up with me he said he still loves me but he needs time away to think and he needs to see if he will really miss me. wednesday i called him a few times, telling him that i didnt want to be controlling and wanted to change it, and he said he felt better, but still said he was confused. thursday and friday there is no contact (very difficult). he has had facebook statuses saying he is confused and perplexed. yesterday he initiates contact via facebook chat but we basically talk about work and school. i quickly ended the convo and we had not talked since. i have felt in limbo and didnt feel like i could move on without really talking about our relationship. so just an hour ago i called him and we talked. i was very calm and did not get needy or whiny. he told me all he has been doing is homework and video games and computer, and he has been bored..he said he never realized how many hours there are to fill up a day, he is used to seeing me after school or work. he did not say he missed me though. i asked him if he wanted to come go to the park with me and my dog and maybe talk about things. he said he is feeling sick and has to do homework as he has an assignment due tomorrow. i said ok well is there another time within the next few days we can meet and talk about things. he said tomorrow he is free. i work tomorrow so i said ok well how about we meet tomorrow and talk about things. he said ok. i asked if he had told his parents about us breaking up and he said no, i asked him dont u think theyre gonna realize, he said maybe but i dunno. he seems like he is still confused. then he is like i have to go, text me tonight about what time you wanna meet tomororw and we will figure out a location. and i let him go. i texted him just 10 min ago asking if he would want to meet at 4:00. he has not yet texted me back. i think i m going to tell him everythign i have been thinking and that i dont want to be clingy or controlling an dthat he can have his freedom and go hang out wtih his friends without getting grief for it. im just scared hes still going to say he is unsure. how can i act to get the best possible answer from him? what do i say if he is still unsure? i think it is good he is willing to talk about things..i have a suspicion he might be confused. i feel that we need to have a talk so i can know whether i really need to let him go..i dont feel i can accept letting him go unless we have a talk. i feel like telling him what i want in a relationship, and what im not going to do, and that he will never know what it is like to be with me like that unless he gives me a chance, and that we can take it slow. if he gives me the chance and is still unsure then he can break up with me. ughh, what do i do? Link to comment
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