peanutbutterandjelly Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 So, it's been 6 months after a pretty bad break up and recently I started to get myself out there again. I'm very introverted and pretty shy, so it's taken a lot out of me to do ths, but I am trying the best that I can. I've gone out with 2 guys so far. The first guy was a jerk and basically told me that I was too fat for him to my face (that was a fun one, feel free to read my old posts if you want to know the whole story). I met another guy and we got together twice, once just us and once in a group setting. A few days after our last date he told me, "i havn't forgotten about you, i'm just busy". That was 2 weeks ago. About a week ago I emailed him and asked him what he was up to and he never wrote back, so I'm assuming that he's just not interested anymore. These two guys I met online. The first one, I messaged first. And the second messaged me first. Since then, I've gotten more confidence and have been trying to meet guys in real life. In the past 3 weeks I have talked to more guys than in the past 3 years! I have gone to a class, a party, a picnic, etc etc and have tried to be as friendly as possible. Ive introduced myself to a ton of guys, dressed nicely, smiled, tried to hold conversations, etc etc, but none of them have asked to get together. I exchanged facebook/emails/numbers with 10 guys. I have 10 new guy friends on facebook, but no one has contacted me or asked me out or anything like that. After meeting them, I add them on facebook, and I message/email them the next day. I say something along the lines of "It was nice meeting you yesterday. (Randomly mention something that we talked about). Hope to see you again soon!" About half of them have returned the message and basically said it was nice meeting me, but none have gone further than that. I dont know what the issue is, or what I'm doing wrong. I am a bit overweight and about 20lbs more than I was when I met my last boyfriend. I dont think I'm coming on too strong or anything, just being friendly and trying to leave it up to them to ask me out... Also, I've been talking to ALL kinds of guys, fat guys, skinny guys, older, younger, short, tall etc. And NONE have bitten... I feel like I must be doing something wrong. Link to comment
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