Profit Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 This post might be a little too long but I will try to be as brief as possible. Any advice is much appreciated. Thanks I've been with my girlfriend for a year and two months. I' am 19 years old and she is 17, going to 18 soon. This was our first real relationship and after a few months we fell in love. I loved this girl like crazy and did everything to make our relationship work. I live about 3 hours drive away from her but we managed to see each other almost every week. She traveled up to my place almost every weekend and slept over. We spoke on the phone every night and sometime we texted during the day.It was getting too much because it was like we had a responsibility to talk every night. We were both jealous but she was really jealous, she would start fights with me over everything. We were at a party once and some girl put on my jacket. My girlfriend heard me telling her to take it off but I wasn't going to chase her around the party to get it back. My girlfriend walked out and started crying and arguing with me. And whenever I got a message on facebook or any other website she expected me to tell her right away, I had nothing to hide but telling her I got a message wasn't the first thing on my mind. She once decided to go on a break with me because she was really stressed with herself, but she still texted my sister checking up on me. There were many stupid situations like this. At the start of our relationship I broke up with her a few times because of some stupid things that she did, she never cheated on me but she annoyed me with some things she did. But we always made up in less than two days. After a few months into the relationship when we fell in love, I couldn't help but be nice to her because I really loved her. For Valantines Day I bought alot of candles and wrote I love you on my bedroom floor. When she walked in she started crying and said she doesn't deserve all that, and she always told me that I deserve better than her. After some time I could see that she was using my kindness to her advantage in a way. Two months ago she broke up with me because everything was getting too much for her, she said that she didn't feel free in this relationship because wherever she went I asked her who she was with and questions like that. And she didn't want to fight. So I told her that we don't need to text each other everyday and talk on the phone and we should stop being so insecure and I promised her I could do that, but she said that if I was out somewhere she would still want to know who was there and she couldn't help but question me. I pointed out everything that was wrong in our relationship and I told her how we could make it right but she still broke up with me. After two days she started texting me and she told me how she realized everything and that she wants to be with me forever. I told her not to get back with me if she is going to have doubts later on in future. So we got back together. But nothing really changed because we were still questioning each other when we were out with friends and always argued. I told her I would stop but I couldn't stop because she continued doing it. I always felt I had more will to make our relationship work. Every time we seen each other or did something together I planned it and that really annoyed me. I told her if she wanted to see me she needs to talk to me and make it happen, if you want something you have to make it happen. She said she does want to see me all the time but doesn't know why she doesn't ask me, its like she expected me to do everything. It was like that for our whole relationship and that really annoyed me. So I spoke to her about it and I didn't see her will to make things right, that really hurt me so I said some things I shouldn't have out of anger. I apologized and she knows I didn't mean it. We planned on seeing each other on that weekend but wen I asked her if it was a good idea she said that we should leave it out because she is really stressed over what happened because what I said really hurt her and she didn't want to talk the next day. But she understood that she hurt me aswell. She texted me the following day saying she can't do this anymore and broke up with me. She said she can't do this anymore but never gave me a proper explanation. I told her that I' am going to accept her decision and not bother her again and she texted me saying thanks and I never wrote back. She is doing her last year in secondary school now and I know she couldn't focus on her exams and everything was too much for her. We didn't talk to a week now, I removed her from facebook and deleted our pictures but she still kept them. She was my first love, whatever happened in the past I always did my best to make it work and I am really disappointed now because she's not doing that. She really broke my heart this time. Have you guys got any advise for me or can you tell me what you think about all this please? Thanks.. Link to comment
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