dave_49 Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 hello all i am a male aged 49 and have been married for over 30 years, i have 4 children who i love dearly. they are now all grown and left home. problem now is i keep thinking about my wife's ex partner (with whom she lost her virginity at 15) she was with him for 1 year and he treated her badly,used to have money off her and hit her twice. i was a virgin. even thou we got married when she was 17 and i was 19 we have been very happy over the years i do not know why its become such a big issue in my life its driving me mad. if i ask her for sex and she says shes tired or not well i see her with this other boy/man and go hot and bad tempered i would never hit her but i cannot stay in bed and say i am going down stairs. shes never had a lot of sex drive and i have a big sex drive,now she thinks once a fortnight is enough at our age. i have told her how i am feeling and she said he was a mistake and i should not think about itis it my problem or hers for doing it so young i keep coming up with different ideas of what she must have been thinking of to go with him so young.or is it because i was a virgin and never went with a girl. i need help please to answer these questions thanks for reading this post hope to get some good info back. dave Link to comment
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