Save a relationship after messing up?

[Forumzguy]

Is there any way to save a relationship after you've messed up such as sleeping with another woman?

[minou]

Ask yourself if you won't do it again. Give the person lots of room to vent and understand they will need to do that and it will take time for them to trust you again, if they are willing to give you another chance. Everyone is different. Many people would say no. However, being without my man is so much worse than that inconsequential mistake. I would much rather be with him and focus on the positive, if I could. I threw him out and didn't give him a chance, which I regret now. Frankly, if I were with him again, I wouldn't give an f* if he occasionally did that while partying after so many years of marriage. I just wouldn't want to know about it. I know I'm not alone. People don't usually confess to that kind of marriage. It stays behind closed doors. More people cheat than get divorced. It all depends on the level of love and how many positives are there. How well you are treated, the fun you have. If the other person adores you, they'll be willing to give you a chance if you really love them and are sorry you hurt them.

[sidehop]

If the person that got cheated on is willing to forgive you and the two can work on the relationship even if it takes time. And I mean long time.

[faithful14]

Trust takes a long time to get back. So if you're truly remorseful and are willing to go above and beyond to fix it (and she is willing to try also), then it can work. Like sidehop said though, it will take a long time of trust and committment to make it work again.

[Forumzguy]

What can i do to gain this trust back?

[Juxtapoz]

It's not going to happen overnight. Make the conscious decision that you want to earn her trust back, and then commit yourself to it 24-7 for the long haul, because it could be a long time.

[shessofly]

wow...seriously?

[shessofly]

Forumzguy, yes it is possible as long as you have a willing partner. if your partner is not willing to forgive and work through the incident, then the answer is no, there is nothing you can do.