still missing him 6 months after break up!?

[exback]

First boyfriend - first everything - he broke up with me after 4 YEARS 6 months ago.

 

I am NOT SUFFERING anymore and I stopped thinking about him/the reasons and so on but sometimes I still miss him. Sometimes he just pops into my mind and I feel the loss.... No more analyzing - just the thought of him - like a picture in my mind.

 

How long does it take till that feeling of loss and missing him will stop for good.

[mellow]

Have you dated anyone else after him?

 

He was your first everything, so it might be just need some more time..?

[coolchick64]

Those feelings never go away completely, but they get less intense. I'm not there yet in my current break-up, but speaking from past experience . . . things will remind you and there'll always be a little twinge. Sounds like all in all you're doing great though---on the right path!

[Casanova4life]

start dating again.

[exback]

Yes, I tried dating 4 times but everytime I did that I felt horrible afterwards and just missed him like crazy during the date. So I decided it is too early for a new guy...

[Ogion]

It's been a year and a half since mine. Don't start talking again, I was pretty much reset by her after 5 months of NC we started talking again and she told me she missed me and still loved me only to have all of those feelings disappear in an instant as soon as she met someone else 7 months later. I guess it was fair she spent a year hanging over me before she started seeing her new guy and wanted to stop talking again. I still miss her.

[exback]

Maybe that is the price we have to pay for all those nice memories...

[annie24]

i think what you are describing is normal. you can't just wipe out memories, especially not with someone you've been with for a long time. this isn't like the movie, "eternal sunshine of the spotless mind." just be thankful for the good times, and focus on moving on. hang in there!