Is it u? Is it me? or is it us? or is it trust? (long post)

[musicguy]

Hello! I met a girl online and I've known her since Nov/Dec. we started "dating" about a month ago. We chat and talk via computer mics. For the last 3 days we've fought because of trust issues. She went to a party awhile back, drank a little too much, some guy was hanging all over her, her tried to kiss her, she pushed him away, she had told me that she got his number, then deleted it from her cell phone. I forgive her for it b/c she was drunk and nothing was her fault and thiongs are going great. I'm not much of a drinker and her and her friends go to the pub every week. So I give her my opinion about drinking and getting drunk. Here's a part of the letter that she sent to me.

 

First of all i don't want

a

stupid disagreement getting in the way of our relationship. I do

understand

why u feel like u do. All i ask is 4 u 2 try 2 see things from my point

of

view. I'm not asking u 2 drink and i'm not gonna drink loads myself,

believe

it or not i'm not a big fan of alcohol. Yes, my friends probably do

drink

because they look "cool", but i don't. Hence the reason why i dont

drink

nearly as much as they do. I'm not trying 2 change ur opinion, i just

want u

2 see things from my point of view and not get upset each time i say

i'm

going 2 the pub. It'll help us both.

 

Then she said this statement that hurt.

 

Also i've just been talking 2 a friend, and it's made me think. Do u

honestly love me? A few things have become obvious, and it seems like u

dont

love me, ur just using me 2 help u and 2 get attention and that u only

"love" me because i show u love and that i care 4 u.

 

We talked on Valentine's Day and had a good time talking and yesterday I told her that there was another girl that liked me and I kinda liked her so after the really long argument and fighting she wrote this to me today.

 

OK, first I do love you with all my heart and i know how sorry u are

for

hurting me.

Secondly the only problem i'm having at the moment is trusting u and

the

reason 4 that is basically other women. First of all i keep thinking of

how

we met, in a thread u started titled summit like "are there any girls

here?", then i think about how u got hung up over megan, then there's

that

other girl back at home who u had feelings 4, now there's this new

girl, and

that pic of ur "friend", and also when u me and Stace were talking once

u got really excited over the

thought of

not me going 2 the US 2 see u, but "2 women going 2 visit u" when Stace

said

she wanted 2 go aswell. Do u see why i don't trust u? I just need u 2

understand. I dont know how u can gain my trust again, i guess that if

u

really love me u'll find a way.

I'll talk 2 u 2morro. Please don't do anything stupid, do that 4 me.

I love you and want 2 be with you.

 

She thinks I'm "obsessed" with females..I mean sorry for being a guy and liking girls. All of these girls I talk to online are my friends with the exception of my new girlfriend. I feel like crap because she doesn't "trust me" when I don't think I've done anything wrong.

 

I honestly don't know what to do or say anymore to make her happy again.

 

Musicguy

[Iwanthim]

Well, online dating...Here is my opinion. You love the person you talk to what happens when you meet this girl and she isnt the person you once fall in love with online. I could love someone online but once you face to face you might not that person you once love online. You might be honestly about everything but do you really know what she doing and everything I really dont believe in online dating until i meet the person thats how you really know if its there or not.