I think my boyfriend is bi-sexual

[rayrae7074]

I have noticed lately that my boyfriend is a member of an online group for bi/gay men. He has been looking at profiles with explicit pictures of men and on gay porn sites. We have been together for four years and I am scared to death that this is true. I don't know how to confront him on this. I know about one of the men he is seeing and he is telling me he met him years ago. I have done wrong and snooped around with his things but I had to find out. I know he is lying to me. What do I do?

[Happy_Go_Lucky_Heb]

By the sounds of it, you're not happy about this situation. I've neva been in your situation but I guess if I was, I'd ask. Or maybe try and catch him out since you've gone this far. Its not fair on you that he's not telling about what's going on...

 

Happy Heb

[raggamuffin]

If you know for a fact he is lying to you then tell him straight out that you know. what he has been up to. Put the issue aside that you have been poking around his stuff although he wont when you tell him how you found out. If he does acuse you of being a snoop admit to it because it would do no good fighting about it when this really isnt the issue at hand. You need to sort out how you feel about the possibtility of him being bi/gay and what you are going to do/say if he confesses. If he doesnt confess you could do what happygoluckyheb said and try to catch him out. I hope this somehow helped. R.

[Tinkerbell]

Don't accuse him until you've got your facts straight. Once you do confront him, if it turns out he's been cheating on you, whether it be with a guy or a girl, you should break up with him. There's no excuse for that. But if he has only been with you and he admits to being bi, you gotta ask yourself if you're ready to stay with him, because it might be pretty difficult. You should also make sure that he thinks he can continue to be happy with you.