Should the guy always initiate?

[GuyNamedBob]

Hey everyone at ENA,

 

I was just wondering (as I do), is it 'normal' for the guy to initiate contact, over distance or just in general?

 

As the guy, for the majority I find my self initiating the calls, texts and conversations. I don't do this being desperate or needy.

 

Just wanted to hear your thoughts, and as little judgment as possible

 

Thanks.

[Crush85]

I think that the guy is expected to initiate contact, at first. But at some point, the girl should return the favor and drop you a line sometime. It's just that simple.

[JadedStar]

After the first couple of weeks of dating the girl should do as much initiating as the guy, and even prior to that she should make some efforts to reach out. In the very early stages I think the guy should do more of the contacting and initiating.

[robinhood]

Hi,

 

The general consensus is that the guy initiates. I don't really like this "tradition" and I normally keep it 50:50, that way no-one really loses, right? =)

 

Don't worry, you won't appear desperate unless you call her at 4 in the morning.

[8amallday]

lol are you desperate when you call her at 4 in the morning, completely drunk and sick?

 

anyways

the guy usually does the initiating, but in these times, the girl seems to wise up to two-way streets later on in the relationship.

[GuyNamedBob]

Thanks everyone, that kind of confirmed what I thought.

Part of the reason I ask is; I have known this girl for a fairly long time now, it is very rare for her to contact me first. But that could be because we live so far and we both have our own separate lives. So if one calls or texts the other its for a reason (if that makes sense

I want to see if she wants to meet up, but it has to be something special, and it can't be spare of the moment.

 

(just venting a little there, any opinions?)

[TENNFOLD1974]

I think it's a two-way street.Especially when it comes to sex,I love it when a woman intiates it from time to time.

[shadesofmediocrity]

I always find I end up initiating most things, but I'm pretty impatient

[GuyNamedBob]

Thanks for all your replies. I suppose I just have to learn to judge whether they honestly like me and there just playing hard to get (I hate games like that or not.