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There's a certain subset of men that genuinely can't conceive of women cheating even when the evidence is staring them right in the face.

I remember on another forum a guy getting an STI and he was absolutely convinced it was from his ONS 18 months prior instead of his current gf.   No one could convince him to consider current gf might have stepped out.  All the men were backing him up because "women don't cheat" but the ONS was a wh$ore so it had to be her even though the symptom timeline didn't add up at all.  I've never seen anything like it.

You might be surprised.

Me, if some clown tried to give me orders and then swear at me, instead of asking why I'd be telling him GFY as I turned and marched out the door.

You didn't give him anything to respond to.

18 hours ago, Cherylyn said:

I'm going on almost 10 years of NC with a person . . 

 

Me too!  Ten years (ish), although the circumstances were/are different.  The relationship was brief, but still I fell HARD.  He basically pulled a fade on me and broke my heart -- I had been with my xH for 25 years so I didn't realize how this dating thing worked anymore.  We did, however, meet up for lunch maybe a year later and the connection was gone.  To this day I miss the conversations we used to have, and his unique viewpoint on the world and social issues, politics, history, etc.

I had hoped to have the sort of post-relationship relationship with him where we could get together once a year or so to catch up, but I guess he didn't want that with me.  My life (and my self as a whole) has changed SO much in that time, and I have reason to believe his has too.  But I'm not sure how I would reach out without it looking like I'm sniffing around.  Which I'm not, I'm very happily involved with someone else.  He did call me a maybe a year or so after I last saw him but I was on a date and I let the call go to VM, which he didn't leave.  I never called him back, and that was it.

Mostly I'd just like to show him that I moved on from him just fine. 🙂

I get what OP is saying.  I think it IS odd to never get male attention.  

7 hours ago, MrNobody1111 said:

. . .  exactly my type. 

What is it about her that made her "exactly your type"?

16 minutes ago, Amod47 said:

 . . . "it's a no" in regards to potential for future relationships.

When you finally meet a guy who's all in with you and wants a future with you, he will not say the above.  He will be clear with you in what he wants, and he will share with you how he plans to get there (and it won't be the way-too- early fake future talk).  He won't risk losing you to someone else while he monkeys around making excuses and playing footsies with exes.  And you will wonder why you ever wasted time and energy on guys like this one.

We all have our kinks. 

Not hurting anyone, I don't see anything wrong.

I don't think people (read: men, since they are the main consumers of porn) realize how it alters your perception of a healthy sex life.

I cringe every time I read how "normal" it is to watch.  It may be common,  but that doesn't mean it is "normal." Far from it.

OP,  all that talk before you meet i.e. you're amazing, I miss you, can't wait to see you, is all fake.  It's fantasy, not real. So expecting him to continue it when things get real (when you meet) is just not realistic.

21 hours ago, mamabear82 said:

I don’t understand what I did.

This is not rocket science.  When he found out you weren't going to be funding all of the dates, he figured there was no use sticking around.

lol How many times do we read here where a guy says I met this woman and she's great in every way but I'm not attracted and everyone says oh, not attracted?  you cut her loose then.  Same situation here.  OP wants a man with the means to treat her well, not give his money to everyone else in his life and then cry broke to her.  Nope.  Nothing wrong with being attracted to a man with means.

13 minutes ago, redswim30 said:

 You can learn to like someone, you can learn to LOVE someone, but you cannot learn to be attracted to someone.  

False.  I've done it.  And more than once.

In fact, the (admittedly few) times I was instantly attracted to someone, it was very short-lived and burned out quickly. 

8 hours ago, a_lifters_life said:

. . . she wants to meet just the ex alone for coffee.  

What could possibly go wrong?

2 hours ago, Indiana_Rizzler said:

It's got me wondering, do I place too much importance on attraction? 

Virtually everyone does.  If you watch enough movies you'll soon find out nothing is more important than attraction.

You did things in the wrong order.  Marriage first, then house.  You can get out of it though . . . houses are sold all the time.  You can sell yours.

24 minutes ago, Blurry 123 said:

He has a characteristic better than yours.

Or bigger.

5 minutes ago, Bene20 said:

I can send you a pic. But I'll have to warn you, you'll be blinded by how perfect I look. Don't suffocate Mr. jealous!

Anxiously waiting by my inbox.

Can you please post a pic?  Because I have never in my whole life seen a perfect man and I would like to see one before I die.

30 minutes ago, Kwothe28 said:

Probably “How to troll boomers”. Heard its an instant hit at ENA lol 

Gen X here.  But we can still be trolled I suppose.

What movie?

This man is in his 50s though?  Is he stupid?  Going around sleeping with everything that moves, knocking up women, come on now (of course I question the judgment of the women too).

11 hours ago, boltnrun said:

BTW, do you know what they call men who use the pull out method?

"Dad".

That's how I got my third kid.

Let's get back to looking down on people whose bodies aren't what we think they should be.