crushed1224

Thank you so much for your kind words. It is really hard to resist being with him and he was the one who initiated it. I have been trying really hard to not talk about our relationship when he is here and have to catch myself from saying i love you to him since it was so engrained in our daily talk. I guess I am just confused as to why he would resign a lease with me and just a week prior to this happening we were discussing buying a house and getting married next year. It's like he is a different person overnight.

Hi, this is my first time posting on this site. I have seen a lot of great advice, and now I am desperately in need of some. I will tell my story in the hopes anyone out there can give me some advice and/or support. My boyfriend and I were together for three years, 2 1/2 living together and we just had a baby boy last december. Three weeks ago he came home and said he was overwhelmed and didn't want to be in the relationship anymore because he was too angry. That's all he said and he packed up most of his stuff and moved back in with his mom since that was the only place he could go. I did the usually stuff pleaded, cried, got mad, etc but it just seemed to make him more upset. Well we decided that he would still come over everyday to visit our son and spend about 2-3 hours with him each day. Since he is only 3 months old, we agreed that frequent contact with him and not having our baby in different environments would be best for him. The tricky thing is that we just resigned our lease at the beginning of february for another year, i still drive his truck sine it is safer than mine for our baby and we still have to see each other everyday. Another thing is that we got sucked back into being intimate the first week we were broken up and that caused even more heartache. We agreed not to do that anymore since it leads to so much confusion. Anyways, he finally told me more about what he was feeling (he is very emotionally unavailable and never talks about his feelings) and he said he bottled up all of his hurt and anger over the past three years and it all came out at once after we had been under a lot of stress from having our baby. He told me that he doesn't understand how he could be so angry at me and still love me so he thought he wasn't in love with me anymore. He kept sending me really confusing signals and we ended up being intimate again tonight, but under the premise that it was a no strings attached thing. I feel even worse now since we were intimate again and he ended up leaving soon after (our son was taking a nap). I am so confused. How do i do no contact when he is over at my apartment everyday to visit our son? I love this man very deeply and can't imagine my life without him. He just tells me that he needs to work stuff out on his own and has too much going on in his own head to have a relationship. Neither of us cheated, we did have frequent fights do to stress but we were always ok after we talked about it. I don't even know what to think anymore. I feel like I want to be intimate with him so we can stay connected, but feel so bad once it is over. Plus we have a son together so that will bind us for life together. I am very close to his family and my family was close to him except he says he is too embarrassed to call my mom because of what happened. I try to distance myself from him and pull away, which makes him push closer to me and this is what happened tonight with us being together intimately. He wants to be a dad to our baby and wants to be in his life but he keeps talking about how a relationship with me won't work because he feels we aren't compatible anymore. I am 26 and he is 24 and he still likes to go out and drink on the weekends, so I'm not sure if he freaked out because of our new family or because he doesn't want to admit he isn't happy with having a baby (his dad left also when he was two months old and is a severe alcoholic). Is it me or am i just being blind? How do I try to make this relationship work if he is so emotionally closed off. He is extremely shy also around people he doesn't know so I'm not worried about him finding someone else and plus I was his first real relationship and first person he was with intimately (he partied up alot and had no interest in having a girlfriend before me). Any help/advice would be great. Sorry this post is so long but I am crushed right now. Thanks