Phatb618

So in total, how long were you guys broken up Mochi?

I totally feel the same way! My didn't leave me for another man but she did betray and turn her back on an almost 6 year relationship. But I disagree that it will repeat itself. I think that with time and understanding things can work out the 2nd time. We the dumpee, need time to heal and move on from break up and then we need to understand how we contributed to it. Then the dumper needs time to move on from the bad feelings we brought up and led to the break up and then they too also need to understand how they contributed to the break up. Once that happens, if both people have moved on and then work on oneself, then it can work the 2nd time around. Just look at all the "getting back" success stories! What do you guys think?

Actually I have sort of 2 getting back together stories, that are tied together... My friend and his wife, dated in high school, went to prom together and then after graduating they went there separate ways. After they split, he then went out with a girl that he really, really liked but it was a summer thing but was a GREAT summer thing that ended when they both went away to different colleges. Well, maybe about 6 or 7 years later, he's out on the town and happens to go by a hotel and then sees a sign for his "summer ex" getting married that weekend. He goes in and says hello and congratulations. Nothing really comes of it. Ironically he also ran into his prom date and they reconcile, get back together and have been married 7 years now, with 2 daughters! The twist to this story is that the "summer ex", seems to have never gotten over him. She is married as well now and also has I think 1 or 2 kids and funny enough they ended up moving to the same neighborhood and do not live very far from each other and ran into each other again in the neighborhood. They exchange contact info and a few weeks later, out of the blue, she textes him, saying she is still really attracted to him and basically wants to have an affair with him! LOL So as you can see, both relationships are ex's coming back in different ways, after a long time apart. So they never forget if you had a long relationship or at least one that was impactful. So you never know!!!

Hey Maron, you never know what can happen. You should know that from reading this forum! So never say never! I'm here thinking about my ex girlfriend and I get upset now more than I do sad. I feel she's making a mistake, big time! During the whole time of dating this new guy, she and I were talking about trying, even went out a few times on dates. She started seeing him, 3 weeks after our break up and in her own words was, lonely, confused and sad. When I first found out about her new guy, I said that was quick and her response was, "I like companionship", "he takes care of me emotionally, like she's always wanted me to". Can anyone say "REBOUND"??? My only problem with my ex is she may not be mature enough to realize its a rebound and see that she hasn't addressed the issues that caused our break up, that after 3 weeks, there is no way she could've healed. Truthfully, I hope that this causes the relationship to FAIL! And if she comes back to me, she is going to have to jump through hoops, actually hoops that are on fire!

Hey Maron, I read your blog/posts on here. How long we're you and your ex together? How long has it been since your break up?

Yeah, things were too bad. We have a daughter together and she really manipulated me through her and at the same time put a lot of stress on the relationship with my current ex. So things were too damaged.

Actually I do have a sort of get back together story... My ex-ex, after hearing about my current ex and I breaking up calls me and tells me that she's always still loved me and that she wants us to be together. And that she thinks this her opportunity to let me know what she is thinking and feeling. It came out of nowhere! I mean I always had a feeling I could go back anytime but for her to say it was kind of a surprise. We hadn't been together since January 2005! Over 7 years!!

Reading these posts have been great! Gives me hope!!! I know, hope, can be dangerous! My ex and I were together for almost 6 years and she broke up with me almost 5 months ago. Did NC, did LC and she came back to me to talk about trying in October. We were both back and forth, up and down and things just dragged. During our conversations about trying she was seeing someone and so was I. I stopped seeing the girl I was with but she didn't do the same. Anyway, she now recently about 2 weeks ago says she's in love with the guy she's with. However, i proposed to her and her response when i proposed was a smile on her face, then her covering her mouth in happy delight and then saying with a sweet voice, "you're crazy...you're crazy" followed by, "I've wanted this for so long, for so long. It's not fair, it's not fair, you do this now, when I'm seeing someone, what am I suppose to do about him?" So does that sound like someone "in love" and honestly if you look up the definition of a rebound relationship, hers would be EXACTLY it! Her: Started seeing this guy 2-3 weeks after we ended. She has been depressed, confused, lonely, All her own words. What she kept saying to me is this guy has been exactly what she wanted emotionally from me. So again, he has provided exactly what she "needed" right after the break up. Attention. I've read a lot on it and again, her relationship is the definition of REBOUND! Anyway, I just hope she can realize things because She is the love of my life! But one thing I've learned from reading here is, you have to let go and move on. Only then it seems that if its meant to be, it will be. If she can see that she is only in love with what this guy does for her now and not in love with him, I can hopefully post my story of getting back together...