Reading these posts have been great! Gives me hope!!! I know, hope, can be dangerous!
My ex and I were together for almost 6 years and she broke up with me almost 5 months ago. Did NC, did LC and she came back to me to talk about trying in October. We were both back and forth, up and down and things just dragged. During our conversations about trying she was seeing someone and so was I. I stopped seeing the girl I was with but she didn't do the same.
Anyway, she now recently about 2 weeks ago says she's in love with the guy she's with. However, i proposed to her and her response when i proposed was a smile on her face, then her covering her mouth in happy delight and then saying with a sweet voice, "you're crazy...you're crazy" followed by, "I've wanted this for so long, for so long. It's not fair, it's not fair, you do this now, when I'm seeing someone, what am I suppose to do about him?" So does that sound like someone "in love" and honestly if you look up the definition of a rebound relationship, hers would be EXACTLY it!
Her: Started seeing this guy 2-3 weeks after we ended. She has been depressed, confused, lonely, All her own words. What she kept saying to me is this guy has been exactly what she wanted emotionally from me. So again, he has provided exactly what she "needed" right after the break up. Attention. I've read a lot on it and again, her relationship is the definition of REBOUND!
Anyway, I just hope she can realize things because She is the love of my life! But one thing I've learned from reading here is, you have to let go and move on. Only then it seems that if its meant to be, it will be. If she can see that she is only in love with what this guy does for her now and not in love with him, I can hopefully post my story of getting back together...