Attempt 1 Day 1:
So it's completely over. Done. I initiated the NC last night. We were completely in love (I think) and had our first holiday together book for late August. Her 'busy' and unpredictable modeling career and my temporary unemployment (waiting to start a new job in Sept) caused too many arguments and so I ended it last week, hopeless.
I changed my mind, I realised that maybe things will change in 2 months when I start work...I'd have been more busy and more confident and a different person, but the damage was done. She rejected my first letter to get back together, and then the pleading started. It only lasted for a day fortunately, one looong text message and two phonecalls, and then I threw in the towel. She told me I was pushing her away so I knew it was the end.
I took control and cancelled the holiday, and told her no more contact and we said our goodbyes last night. Closure.
So that's that. I'm not really sure how I feel about this. At first I was actually relieved it was over, and then I was apathetic this morning. I did some Yoga this morning to calm my head which was ok and then had a workout. I'm going to be doing ALOT of working out and yoga. I've been working out for 5 years already but i'm going to try and reach places that I have never reached before and look better than I ever have done.
I then drove round to her house to drop off the birthday present which has been sitting in my room for next month. Silly, but I did love her, and if I can't send her a text on her birthday then she can at least have those, besides I want her to remember me as a special person. I always got my presents spot on and she will no doubt cry hysterically when she opens it later. Her mum gave me a massive hug and said she's distraught it's over. We chatted about it for 10 minutes (I think that was wrong actually, but she insisted) and I left.
Back to how I feel. At the moment I'm fluctuating between missing her, confusion and anger. I miss how gorgeous she was, actually beautiful. Her eyes were large and blue, she had gorgeous blonde hair and legs that went on for miles. And ambitious. She had her finger in so many pies: model, stylist, writer. I miss her family too. I miss the fact that she was out of my league and I also miss the fact that she absolutely loved me. But I just don't know if I miss her personality. She was amazing and seemed to fluctuate between massively self righteous, confident and insecure. She loved to laugh and didn't take anything too seriously, apart from fashion. That was everything to her. I've thought I've loved her for years, but why are there no memories of her saying sweet nothings to me? Aren't I meant to recall all the good times? Maybe it was just lust? I don't know.
And then I get angry. Angry that she should've given me a second chance. I think I deserved one, obviously, and I think she will regret it, I really do. And I'm also angry that she always said she was so 'busy'. She wasn't busy. Her life was full of variety but she was certainly no busier than any person with a full time job. But for some reason I still felt neglected by her as she was too busy and the relationship died.
So that's day 1. Right now I'm worrying that no other girl in the world will be as gorgeous as she is. It all seems pretty natural so i'm not panicking yet.
Let's see how tomorrow goes.