I am 25 yrs old, have been married for 5 years. My husband and I have are doing failrly well for ourselves, good jobs, all the toys, degrees etc. We have had a very tumultuous relationship to say the least. He is 28 and has a daughter from a previous relationship. He is very much a taker type personality, very dependent on me emotionally, I am the giver, and rescuer. He has come to expect this from me and doesn't appreciate anything I do anymore. He is an introvert, I am an extrovert. I feel I have comprised my character, I am most unhappy when around him. He is a nice looking guy, not mean, abusive, somehwat passive, where I am more of an assertive personality. We have had in the past serious trust issues, he has lied to me often, which I ahve always felt was the utmost disrespect to a partner. Our intimacy level is no existent. I am very conflicted, I have had an encounter with a colleague at a conference, just "making" out if you will. But I feel very guilty, but also find myself flirting because I feel so unfulfilled at home. I crave attention that I don't receive from my spouse. I have tried to communicate with him the past couple years about how I feel but he just doesn't seem to comprehend. I most recently have received a job offer 1000 miles away, I have decided I will accept, and my concern is that I am doing this for the wrong reasons. His concern is that I am using this a means to an end. Part of me feels, that if I don't take the opportunity I will resent him, however I am also tired of him expecting to always be there and take care of him. I think we have become 2 very different people in five years, and I know I have matured some. I know I am rambling at this point, but I feel bad about the tempation I am so close to act on, I can't get this person from the conference out of my mind. He is married too, and is feeling guilt/shame. We talk on the phone and email each other, he has acknowledged his attraction still for me as have I. I wonder if this is just a result of the "thrill" of wondering what could have been, since we didn't fully act on our feelings. I wonder if this is some void, that I am trying to fill. Needless to say, I am very conflicted, don't know what to do, my husband is a nice man and I think I want to make it work, but part of me just wants to be rid of everything, but I don't think I would have the heart to do it. If I am feeling the feelings of tempation...it is not fair to him for me to stay is it? I feel very guilty for my actions. If anyone has any thoughts, or has experienced anything similar...I would love to hear form you! Am very confused.