Jason_C123

Yea so there's this girl that I've been close friends with for the past year (people even thought we were going out recently) And the thing about this is that recently I've finally accepted that I like her and that I want to be with her after I used to deny that I did for so long... But a couple of days ago she sends me this letter saying shes suddenly moved away...accross the country (by herself)... Right now I am sooo upset that she had to leave like this, I mean she didn't even bother to say goodbye to me and she didn't even leave me an address to contact her at and, on top of that, even changed her cell #... She told me in her letter that it was too hard to say goodbye to me because of how close we are and how one day I will understand why she did this... I'm sooo confused I mean I just wish she had at least given me the chance to say goodbye because then at least I wouldn't have to live with the fact that I never got to tell her how I felt about her you know? I dunno what to do I mean should I just give up on her and move on or should I still try to find her and tell her these things? Man I wish she hadn't left like this, I'm gonna miss her SOOOO much.....

Allrite so heres my situation- theres this girl I've become good friends with over the past year and I started having feelings for her. But I've always been afraid to tell her how I really feel because I was afraid that it would ruin our friendship. So going with the phrase "actions speak louder than words" I simply treated her like no other girl I've ever treated before. I would always compliment her about her looks, her sense of humor, and her style. I even went as far as to ask her to prom for our last year of high school and she willingly accepted. Well one time I did bring up the topic of guys that she would want to date and she simply told me that she would never go out with any of the guys in her class (this includes me) I also got a friend of mine (who is a girl) to ask her what she wants in a guy and she told her that she is very shallow when it comes to guys and she wants a guy with very good looks & a lot of money. Well I think I'm a pretty ok looking guy & I'm told I have an excellent personality but I am also far from being rich. My guy friends warned me about her saying that she's just gonna use me for what I'm worth and throw me away when shes done and they say that I need to seriously get over her. But I think I've become so attached to her its hard to do this and I feel like when we go to college shes just gonna forget about me and I will feel even worse. I dont know why I feel this way about her but when she talks to me I just feel so great and everything seems right at that time but like when she tells me stuff shes done with other guys (shes still a virgin but like guys shes hooked up with) I feel like crap. I really feel like the saying "nice guys finish last" really applies to me and in the end I'm just gonna be hurt. If there's ANY advice anyone could give me on what would be the best thing to do in this situation I would greatly appreciate it.