My BF of 17 years and I are on the verge of a break up. Our relationship has been struggling for the past 3 years since we bought a house together and marriage/kids became a possible reality. We have always had different sex drives - I was always much less sexual than him.. but now it is just the opposite, he does not want sex at all and I want it all the time. I feel like a butterfly coming out of the cacoon - I feel extremely sexual, open to try anything and think about sex all the time. About 6 mos ago he stopped initiating sex with me. I tried to give him some space because he has been depressed (moody, sleeps all the time, drinks more) and his job is very stressful, but could not stand the lack of physical intimacy and told him I needed to talk about what was happening. He said that he feels lost, life has no direction, empty, does not know who he is and is not sexually attracted to me anymore. He said he still loves me very deeply, but does not fantasize about me anymore and feels nothing when he tries to think of me in a sexual way. I am extremely concerned about his mental health and have urged him to go for help - he has refused, saying it is something wrong with him that he has to work out. He told me he has thought of moving out. I am at a loss as to what to do. Nothing I do or say is the right thing and I can't seem to make things better between us while he is refusing to seek help. I love this man more than life itself and just can't picture my life without him. Is there anything that I can do to help my man and save our relationship?