my wife and i are both 36. we have been married for almost 5 years. we have had a great relationship until about a year ago when "ann" came into our life. ann is an old friend of my wife's that she grew up with in our church. ann is about 32, has been divorced about 6 years, is overweight, and all she is interested in are younger guys and bodybuilder types and is not interested in normal guys. the problem is that ann starting hanging out over at our house all the time and my wife spends much more time with ann than with me. I used to look forward to coming home from work and spending time with my wife, but almost every day, ann's car is in our driveway. when ann is there, i feel left out of the loop. we have had several discussions about ann, but my wife says she is her best friend and she has so much fun when she is around her. she insists that their is nothing wrong with their relationship, that they are just best friends, but it seems to me that my wife spends more and more time with ann and less time with me. my wife says that i shouldn't worry about it, but my family and even her family thinks the whole situation is kind of weird. I told my wife that i didn't care if she wanted to hang out and be friends with ann, but that we needed time alone together. I think ann is very controlling and tries to control my wife by making her feel guilty. ann is up one minute and down in the dumps the next. ann does not work and she tries to be doing something with my wife whenever my wife is not working. she smothers my wife so much that she rarely spends time with her other friends or with me alone. i have had a lot of people ask me why ann is at our house all the time. I asked my wife why she felt the need to spend so much time with ann and she said that ann was a lot more fun than i was.
