Okay, this is a long story, so please bear with me...
About 7 months ago, my wife began to demand more "freedom". She had a discontent with the marriage (the source of which I still don't understand). She began to find herself in situations where she would flirt with guys, then the flirting would lead to kissing, etc. These things occurred when she was out because of activities that she does (softball, bowling, social parties, etc.).
Over this time period, she also began to spend money wildly, has gotten three tattoos, a new sports car, and has cheated on me with four people. She is now gone most nights and weekends, either for activities, but mostly out with her "friends".
Recently, she made an attempt at suicide (which she is now going through therapy for depression), and admitted that she fell in love with one of the guys that she was seeing.
I have made many accommodations to help her be "happy", but none of them seem to work. We even entertained swinging to accommodate her sexual desires, but it only ended with her "falling in love" with the guy mentioned above.
She is continuing to see this guy (and his wife) as "friends", and I have expressed my discomfort at this. I really don't want to spend time with them, but I feel obligated in order to keep her happy. I really have no trust left, but that doesn't seem to bother her, either.
There are some other factors here, too. One is our two boys (5 and 9). Another is how we interact. She no longer talks to me the same way as she talks with these "friends". Our conversations usually end with her getting angry because "I don't understand" how letting her buy something, or letting her go out will make her happy.
I am at a point where I can't think straight. Should I continue trying to keep the marriage together, or am I being nieve, and should get out and find someone that can respect me? HELP!!!
